{"id":82109,"date":"2019-07-01T22:49:12","date_gmt":"2019-07-01T18:49:12","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=82109","title":{"rendered":"Qad\u0131nlar n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?<\/b><\/font> – Sual\u0131n cavab\u0131 tap\u0131ld\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"

Münasib\u0259tl\u0259r müxt\u0259lif s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n ba\u015fa çat\u0131r, ail\u0259l\u0259r da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r. Son zaman bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n artmas\u0131 münasib\u0259tl\u0259rin hans\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n korland\u0131\u011f\u0131, sevib ail\u0259 quran cütlükl\u0259rin n\u0259y\u0259 gör\u0259 bo\u015fanma q\u0259rar\u0131 ald\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair dü\u015fünm\u0259y\u0259 vadar edir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az “Qafqazinfo”ya istinad\u0259n x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Castin \u015eanfarber öz m\u0259qal\u0259sind\u0259 “Qad\u0131nlar n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?” sual\u0131na cavab tapma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131b. Münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 böhranla ba\u011fl\u0131 olan çoxsayl\u0131 probleml\u0259r fonunda ki\u015fil\u0259r sad\u0259c\u0259 bir \u015feyi bilm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Qad\u0131n h\u0259tta sevdiyi insan\u0131 bel\u0259 t\u0259rk edir v\u0259 bu faktd\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Düzdür, bu, qad\u0131na \u0259zab verir. Ür\u0259yini parçalay\u0131r. Özün\u0259 nifr\u0259t etm\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Lakin bu, yen\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u015f verir. Gec v\u0259 ya tez qad\u0131n sevdiyi ki\u015fid\u0259n ged\u0259 bil\u0259r.
\nU\u015faqlar, ev, \u0259mlak v\u0259 kapital – bütün bunlar art\u0131q özünü müst\u0259qil hesab ed\u0259n biri üçün mane\u0259 deyil.<\/p>\n

\"\"Qad\u0131n ail\u0259ni müxt\u0259lif s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n da\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fn böyük s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 b\u0259sitdir – ki\u015fi onun yan\u0131nda deyil!
\nO, i\u015fd\u0259dir, bal\u0131q tutma\u011fa gedib, ovdad\u0131r, dostlar\u0131 il\u0259 piv\u0259 içir – bütün bunlar qad\u0131n üçün ön\u0259mli deyil. H\u0259tta o, çox ön\u0259mli i\u015f dal\u0131nca gedibs\u0259 bel\u0259, bu art\u0131q münasib\u0259tl\u0259rin bünövr\u0259sin\u0259 z\u0259rb\u0259dir.<\/p>\n

“O, yan\u0131mda deyil, o, laz\u0131m olan anda yoxdur. M\u0259n t\u0259k\u0259m” – M\u0259hz bel\u0259 qorxunc dü\u015fünc\u0259l\u0259r münasib\u0259tl\u0259rin pozulmas\u0131na g\u0259tirib ç\u0131xar\u0131r.
\nAyr\u0131l\u0131\u011fa s\u0259b\u0259b heç d\u0259 o dem\u0259k deyil ki, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f pis t\u0259r\u0259f müqabili v\u0259 ya m\u0259suliyy\u0259tsiz biridir. O, diqq\u0259tcil, yara\u015f\u0131ql\u0131, seksual f\u0259al ola bil\u0259r. Ki\u015fi möht\u0259\u015f\u0259m ata, ail\u0259nin müdafi\u0259çisi d\u0259 ola bil\u0259r. V\u0259 buna baxmayaraq, ki\u015fi yen\u0259 d\u0259 öz qad\u0131n\u0131n\u0131 itir\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Niy\u0259?
\n“Kims\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259 v\u0259 m\u0259ni döy\u0259 bil\u0259r. M\u0259ni zorlaya bil\u0259r. M\u0259ni qar\u0259t ed\u0259 v\u0259 ya alçalda bil\u0259r” – ki\u015fil\u0259r yan\u0131nda olmayanda \u0259ks\u0259r qad\u0131nlar m\u0259hz bel\u0259 dü\u015fünür.<\/p>\n

Bel\u0259 bir ehtimal onlar\u0131 sad\u0259c\u0259 qorxutmur.  T\u0259kc\u0259 hücuma m\u0259ruz qala bilm\u0259 bar\u0259d\u0259 dü\u015fünc\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131 göz ya\u015f\u0131 h\u0259ddin\u0259 çatd\u0131r\u0131r. B\u0259li, qad\u0131n çox \u015fey t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Lakin o, \u0259\u015fya, investisiya deyil. Qad\u0131n anla\u015f\u0131lan v\u0259 asan yerin\u0259 yetiril\u0259 bil\u0259n \u015f\u0259rt qoya bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

“B\u0259z\u0259n m\u0259nim yan\u0131ma cütlükl\u0259r g\u0259lir. Ki\u015fil\u0259r dem\u0259k olar ki, h\u0259r zaman susur. O, raz\u0131d\u0131r. Çünki rasional dü\u015fünür.  Onun ail\u0259si, karyeras\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131, sevimli avtomobili – h\u0259r \u015fey n\u0259zar\u0259ti alt\u0131ndad\u0131r. H\u0259r \u015fey qaydas\u0131ndad\u0131r.  Qad\u0131n is\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi olaraq tük\u0259nib. Qad\u0131n yax\u0131nl\u0131q hiss etm\u0259k ist\u0259yir. Ehtiras! \u0130st\u0259k yox, ona v\u0259 h\u0259yata qar\u015f\u0131 ehtiras… Bu dünyada h\u0259r zaman onun yan\u0131nda  birinin dayand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hiss etm\u0259k…”, dey\u0259 psixoloq \u0259lav\u0259 edir.<\/p>\n

Qad\u0131na ba\u015fqa bir t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n baxma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Onda \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259ti görün.
\nBuna baxmayaraq, ki\u015fi m\u0259\u015f\u011fuldur. \u0130\u015f, ev, televizor v\u0259 soyuducudak\u0131 piv\u0259…  Kim dedi ki, qad\u0131n ç\u0259tin \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tdir? Tamamil\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f fikirdir. Haz\u0131rla\u015fmaq, kosmetika, manikur – budur onun maraq sferas\u0131, el\u0259 deyil?<\/p>\n

Dem\u0259li, qad\u0131nlar n\u0259 ist\u0259yir? Sual\u0131n cavab\u0131 çox b\u0259sitdir. Sad\u0259c\u0259, sevdiyi ki\u015finin yan\u0131nda olmas\u0131n\u0131…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Münasib\u0259tl\u0259r müxt\u0259lif s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n ba\u015fa çat\u0131r, ail\u0259l\u0259r da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r. Son zaman bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n artmas\u0131 münasib\u0259tl\u0259rin hans\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n korland\u0131\u011f\u0131, sevib ail\u0259 quran cütlükl\u0259rin n\u0259y\u0259 gör\u0259 bo\u015fanma q\u0259rar\u0131 ald\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair dü\u015fünm\u0259y\u0259 vadar edir. Ucnoqta.az “Qafqazinfo”ya…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[97],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82109","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maraqli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82109","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=82109"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82109\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=82109"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=82109"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=82109"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}