{"id":79373,"date":"2019-05-02T13:43:44","date_gmt":"2019-05-02T09:43:44","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=79373","title":{"rendered":"\u0130mtahanqaba\u011f\u0131 g\u0259rginliyin abituriyentl\u0259r\u0259 t\u0259siri \u2013 PS\u0130XOLOQ X\u018fB\u018fRDARLIQ ED\u0130R<\/font><\/b>"},"content":{"rendered":"

V\u0259fa R\u0259\u015fidova: "\u0130mtahanlara iki h\u0259ft\u0259 qalm\u0131\u015f d\u0259rs yükünü azaltmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r"<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mü\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u0259sas\u0259n abituriyentl\u0259rin 90 faizi imtahandan önc\u0259 v\u0259 h\u0259min gün h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q h\u0259y\u0259canl\u0131 v\u0259 stresli olurlar. H\u0259mçinin imtahanlara kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r haz\u0131r olan v\u0259 s\u0131naq imtahanlar\u0131nda yet\u0259rli bal y\u0131\u011fanlar da bu h\u0259y\u0259can\u0131n iç\u0259risind\u0259 olur. Dem\u0259k olar ki, klassik imtahan stresini bütün abituriyentl\u0259r ya\u015fay\u0131rlar v\u0259 bu da onlar\u0131n n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 m\u0259nfi yönd\u0259 t\u0259sir edir. H\u0259m d\u0259 burada yaln\u0131z abituriyentin özünün ist\u0259kl\u0259rinin realla\u015fmas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 keçirdiyi hissl\u0259r deyil, valideynl\u0259rin, \u0259traf\u0131n basq\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n da t\u0259siri böyük olur v\u0259 o imtahana böyük bir g\u0259rginlikl\u0259 girir. B\u0259s sadalanan imtahan stresind\u0259n yaxa qurtarmaq mümkündürmü? Psixoloji g\u0259rginlikd\u0259n azad olmalar\u0131 üçün hans\u0131 imkanlardan yararlanmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r?<\/p>\n

Abituriyentl\u0259rin davran\u0131\u015f  pozuqlu\u011funa ail\u0259l\u0259rin a\u011f\u0131r t\u0259zyiqi s\u0259b\u0259b olur<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bununla \u0259laq\u0259dar “Üç nöqt\u0259” q\u0259zetinin suallar\u0131n\u0131 cavabland\u0131ran psixoloq V\u0259fa R\u0259\u015fidova deyir ki, imtahanqaba\u011f\u0131 stres abituriyentl\u0259rd\u0259 davran\u0131\u015f pozuqlu\u011funa s\u0259b\u0259b olur: “Bu probleml\u0259r\u0259 gör\u0259 valideynl\u0259r \u0259sas\u0259n yanvar-fevral aylar\u0131nda psixoloqa müraci\u0259t edirl\u0259r. Qrafikin g\u0259rginliyi avtomatik olaraq yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u015füuralt\u0131 stres, aqresiya yarad\u0131r. H\u0259tta b\u0259z\u0259n bu el\u0259 h\u0259dd\u0259 çat\u0131r ki, insan özünd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmadan o q\u0259d\u0259r h\u0259y\u0259can keçirir ki, b\u0259d\u0259n fizioloji a\u011fr\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131r. Bu adi yor\u011funluq deyil, valideynl\u0259r çox diqq\u0259tli olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. \u018fks\u0259r hallarda abituriyentl\u0259rin davran\u0131\u015f pozuqlu\u011funun s\u0259b\u0259bi ail\u0259l\u0259rin a\u011f\u0131r t\u0259zyiqi olur”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq deyir ki, yeniyetm\u0259lik dövründ\u0259 u\u015faqlar valideynl\u0259rin himay\u0259sind\u0259 oldu\u011fundan probleml\u0259r d\u0259 \u0259sas\u0259n valideynl\u0259rd\u0259n qaynaqlan\u0131r: “U\u015faq ail\u0259d\u0259 hans\u0131 davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 görürs\u0259, onu c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 \u0259ks etdirir, ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 kompleks \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 narahatç\u0131l\u0131q ortaya ç\u0131x\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlara günahkarl\u0131q hissi yükl\u0259yir, bu halda u\u015faq art\u0131q imtahan\u0131n f\u0259rqind\u0259 olmur, sad\u0259c\u0259, yax\u015f\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259 qazanmasa, ata-anas\u0131na n\u0259 dey\u0259c\u0259yini dü\u015fünür.<\/p>\n

Q\u0259bul imtahan\u0131na haz\u0131rla\u015fan abituriyentl\u0259rd\u0259  stressi \u0259sas\u0259n valideynl\u0259rin davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 yarad\u0131r. \u0130mtahanqaba\u011f\u0131 g\u0259rginlik abituriyentl\u0259ri intihar h\u0259ddin\u0259 çatd\u0131ra bil\u0259r. \u0130mtahana bir h\u0259ft\u0259, on gün qalm\u0131\u015f haz\u0131rla\u015fmaq do\u011fru deyil”.<\/p>\n

Abituriyentl\u0259r daim oxumal\u0131 deyil, istirah\u0259t\u0259 d\u0259 vaxt ay\u0131rmal\u0131d\u0131rlar<\/strong><\/p>\n

V.R\u0259\u015fidova söyl\u0259yir ki, abituriyentl\u0259rin 90 faizind\u0259 imtahanqaba\u011f\u0131 stresin olmas\u0131 normald\u0131r, amma b\u0259z\u0259n bunun ciddi psixoloji probleml\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b oldu\u011fu da istisna edilmir: “B\u0259zi abituriyentl\u0259r m\u0259suliyy\u0259tsiz olur, bu halda valideynin t\u0259zyiqi hiss olunma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r, sanki valideyn universitet\u0259 q\u0259bul olacaq. \u018fslind\u0259, u\u015fa\u011fa zaman\u0131nda m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti hiss etdirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, o abituriyent dövrün\u0259 çatanda özü öz m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini ç\u0259k\u0259 bilsin. Abituriyentlik ya\u015f\u0131n da el\u0259 bir dövrüdür ki, bu zaman g\u0259ncl\u0259r irad q\u0259bul etmirl\u0259r, valideynl\u0259 münasib\u0259tl\u0259r pozulur v\u0259 n\u0259hay\u0259t, psixoloqa üz tutmal\u0131 olurlar. Dig\u0259r qrup abituriyentl\u0259r is\u0259 mük\u0259mm\u0259lliyy\u0259tçi olurlar v\u0259 özl\u0259rini laz\u0131m\u0131ndan art\u0131q yükl\u0259yirl\u0259r. Bu da normal hal deyil. Abituriyent daim oxumal\u0131 deyil, o h\u0259m d\u0259 öz yuxusunu almal\u0131d\u0131r, \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259d\u0259n istifad\u0259 etm\u0259lidir, ona hans\u0131 m\u0259\u015f\u011fuliyy\u0259t xo\u015fdursa, onu etm\u0259lidir. \u0130stirah\u0259tsiz oxuyanda art\u0131q o informasiya çoxlu\u011fundan \u0259ziyy\u0259t ç\u0259k\u0259c\u0259k, oxuduqlar\u0131 da müv\u0259qq\u0259ti olacaq, yadda\u015f\u0131nda müv\u0259qq\u0259ti qalacaq”.<\/p>\n

“Valideyn \u015f\u0259rt qoyur ki, bu q\u0259d\u0259r bal y\u0131\u011fmal\u0131san…”<\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u0259fa R\u0259\u015fidova h\u0259tta b\u0259z\u0259n imtahan g\u0259rginliyinin intihar h\u0259ddin\u0259 çatd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da bildirir: “H\u0259tta el\u0259 valideyn var ki, abituriyenti imtahana yola salanda qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u015f\u0259rt qoyur, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, bu q\u0259d\u0259r bal y\u0131\u011fmal\u0131san. Bunun özü d\u0259 travmad\u0131r. Abituriyentin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na universitet\u0259 daxil olma\u011f\u0131 \u015f\u0259rt kimi qoymaq onu narahatç\u0131l\u0131\u011fa sövq etm\u0259k, intihara g\u0259tirib ç\u0131xarma\u011fa b\u0259rab\u0259rdir. Abituriyentl\u0259rl\u0259 davranma\u011f\u0131n \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 yolu odur ki, ilk önc\u0259 h\u0259r bir valideyn öz övlad\u0131n\u0131 do\u011fru tan\u0131mal\u0131d\u0131r. O bilm\u0259lidir ki, övlad\u0131 n\u0259d\u0259n rahat ola bilir. Amma valideynl\u0259r dü\u015fünürl\u0259r ki,  abituriyentl\u0259r daim dinc\u0259lm\u0259d\u0259n, özün\u0259 vaxt ay\u0131rmadan oxumal\u0131d\u0131r”.<\/p>\n

\u0130mtahanlara iki h\u0259ft\u0259 qalm\u0131\u015f d\u0259rs yükünü azaltmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r<\/strong><\/p>\n

“\u0130mtahanlara iki h\u0259ft\u0259 qalm\u0131\u015f d\u0259rs yükünü azaltmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r, imtahana bir h\u0259ft\u0259 qalm\u0131\u015f dinc\u0259lm\u0259k zaman\u0131d\u0131r. Onsuz da son bir h\u0259ft\u0259 \u0259slind\u0259 heç n\u0259yi d\u0259yi\u015fmir. Mü\u0259lliml\u0259r d\u0259 \u015fagirdi anlamal\u0131d\u0131r, ba\u015fqalar\u0131 il\u0259 müqayis\u0259 etm\u0259m\u0259lidir. Bir qrupda olan u\u015faqlar\u0131n ham\u0131s\u0131 eyni ola bilm\u0259z. \u018fg\u0259r bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n ünsiyy\u0259t problemi, özün\u0259 inams\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 varsa, bu mü\u0259llim t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n gözd\u0259n qaçmamal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fn az\u0131ndan mü\u0259lliml\u0259r öz sözl\u0259ri il\u0259 \u015fagirdl\u0259r\u0259 travma verm\u0259m\u0259lidirl\u0259r. B\u0259z\u0259n bunlar imtahana haz\u0131rla\u015fan \u015fagirdin mü\u0259llimi d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Ba\u015fqa mü\u0259llim\u0259 adaptasiya dövrü mü\u0259yy\u0259n zaman t\u0259l\u0259b edir v\u0259 bu amill\u0259rin  imtahana t\u0259sir etm\u0259k ehtimal\u0131 çoxal\u0131r”.<\/p>\n

H\u0259y\u0259can, t\u0259\u015fvi\u015f çoxdursa, \u0259ll\u0259r daha çox t\u0259rl\u0259yirs\u0259, \u0259sirs\u0259…<\/strong><\/p>\n

O da m\u0259lumdur ki, stresi yat\u0131rmaq, g\u0259rginliyi azaltmaq üçün imtahandan önc\u0259 mü\u0259yy\u0259n sakitl\u0259\u015fdirici d\u0259rmanlardan da istifad\u0259 edilir.  Psixoloq is\u0259 deyir ki, t\u0259\u0259ssüf ki, çox vaxt müt\u0259x\u0259ssis r\u0259yi olmadan mü\u0259yy\u0259n d\u0259rmanlardan istifad\u0259 olunur. Amma b\u0259zi hallarda d\u0259rmans\u0131z da ötü\u015fm\u0259k mümkündür. \u018fg\u0259r h\u0259y\u0259can, t\u0259\u015fvi\u015f çoxdursa, \u0259ll\u0259r daha çox t\u0259rl\u0259yirs\u0259, \u0259sirs\u0259, o halda mü\u0259yy\u0259n sakitl\u0259\u015fdirici preparatlar\u0131 q\u0259bul etm\u0259k olar. Bel\u0259 hallarda  psixoloqun yard\u0131m\u0131 il\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t t\u0259nziml\u0259nmirs\u0259, yuxu qaydas\u0131na dü\u015fmürs\u0259, onda d\u0259rman m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tdir. Burada da f\u0259rdi yana\u015fma olmal\u0131d\u0131r, el\u0259 abituriyent var ki, ona h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259 bu d\u0259rmanlar\u0131 q\u0259bul etm\u0259k vacib deyil, amma el\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t var ki, d\u0259rman q\u0259bulu mütl\u0259qdir”. \u0130xtisas seçimind\u0259 d\u0259 abituriyentl\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259rb\u0259stlik verm\u0259yin vacib oldu\u011funu söyl\u0259y\u0259n V.R\u0259\u015fidova bildirir ki, onlar\u0131 istiqam\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259nd\u0259 d\u0259 bir az real dü\u015fünm\u0259k, imkanlar\u0131n\u0131 düzgün d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ndirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131n n\u0259y\u0259 qadir oldu\u011funu bilm\u0259lidir: “B\u0259z\u0259n valideyn evd\u0259 bir kitab, q\u0259zet, jurnal oxumur, lakin övlad\u0131n\u0131 istirah\u0259tsiz oxuma\u011fa m\u0259cbur edir. Seçim ed\u0259rk\u0259n abituriyentin ist\u0259yi d\u0259 n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, valideyn d\u0259 övlad\u0131n\u0131 harada görm\u0259k ist\u0259diyini d\u0259  bildirm\u0259lidir. \u018fg\u0259r seçim zaman\u0131 yaln\u0131z yax\u015f\u0131 qazanmaq n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131narsa, burada bir paradoks yaranacaq. Abituriyent üçün imkan yaratmaq, anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 davranmaq, intensiv kontaktda olmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, onun n\u0259yi sevdiyi ayd\u0131n olsun”.<\/p>\n

Nazl\u0131 Allahverdiyeva<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

V\u0259fa R\u0259\u015fidova: "\u0130mtahanlara iki h\u0259ft\u0259 qalm\u0131\u015f d\u0259rs yükünü azaltmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r" Mü\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u0259sas\u0259n abituriyentl\u0259rin 90 faizi imtahandan önc\u0259 v\u0259 h\u0259min gün h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q h\u0259y\u0259canl\u0131 v\u0259 stresli olurlar. H\u0259mçinin imtahanlara kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[91],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-79373","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-olkeici"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79373","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=79373"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79373\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=79373"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=79373"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=79373"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}