{"id":77987,"date":"2019-04-12T19:33:13","date_gmt":"2019-04-12T15:33:13","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=77987","title":{"rendered":"Yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 imtahan stressi"},"content":{"rendered":"

S\u0259bin\u0259 Bayramova: "Abituriyentl\u0259r d\u0259, valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 psixoloji d\u0259st\u0259k almal\u0131d\u0131r"<\/strong><\/p>\n

Art\u0131q ali m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259r\u0259 q\u0259bul imtahanlar\u0131na start verildi. \u0130mtahanlar\u0131n ikinci m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259si is\u0259 yay aylar\u0131nda ba\u015f tutacaq. H\u0259r il 100 mind\u0259n art\u0131q yeniyetm\u0259 ali m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259r\u0259 q\u0259bul prosesin\u0259 qo\u015fulur. \u0130mtahanlar\u0131 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n dönü\u015f nöqt\u0259si, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yi kimi dü\u015fün\u0259r\u0259k \u0259lav\u0259 stress\u0259 qap\u0131l\u0131rlar. Valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 öz növb\u0259sind\u0259 uzun müdd\u0259tli haz\u0131rl\u0131q periodundan sonra imtahan günü h\u0259y\u0259canlar\u0131n\u0131 yat\u0131rmaq üçün sözün \u0259sl m\u0259nas\u0131nda n\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini bilmirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Stress keçir\u0259n, h\u0259y\u0259canlanan, valerian axtaran xeyli sayda valideyn olur… Amma bu psixoloji sars\u0131nt\u0131lar, h\u0259y\u0259canlanmalar n\u0259 yaz\u0131q ki, b\u0259z\u0259n h\u0259l\u0259 xarakteri tam formala\u015fmam\u0131\u015f yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259ri yanl\u0131\u015f dü\u015fünc\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 sürükl\u0259y\u0259 bilir. H\u0259tta onlar arzuolunmaz, h\u0259yatlar\u0131 bahas\u0131na ba\u015fa g\u0259l\u0259n yollara bel\u0259 \u0259l at\u0131rlar…
\n“Ucnoqta.az” sayt\u0131 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259ri bu d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli sona götür\u0259n psixoloji m\u0259qamlara ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tirm\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131b.<\/p>\n

Yeniyetm\u0259lik böhran\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 psixoloq S\u0259bin\u0259 Bayramova deyir ki, abituriyentl\u0259rin ya\u015f dövrün\u0259 n\u0259z\u0259r salmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r: “Yeniyetm\u0259lik ya\u015f dövrü psixologiyada böhran, krizis dövrü kimi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ndirilir. Bu, insan\u0131n ya\u015f dövrl\u0259ri aras\u0131nda \u0259n a\u011f\u0131r dövrdür. O, u\u015faq deyil v\u0259 eyni zamanda böyük d\u0259 deyil. Ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 h\u0259r deyil\u0259n ifad\u0259 u\u015faq üçün t\u0259sirli, yaddaqalan, unudulmaz olur. Bu, ist\u0259nil\u0259n bir söz ola bil\u0259r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, el\u0259 valideynin onu ba\u015fqa u\u015faqla müqayis\u0259 etm\u0259yini götür\u0259k. Tutaq ki, filank\u0259sin u\u015fa\u011f\u0131na bax, o nec\u0259dir, s\u0259n nec\u0259? Y\u0259ni bu kimi müqayis\u0259l\u0259r art\u0131q u\u015faqda özünü qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259ni a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 sal\u0131r, özün\u0259 güv\u0259nini sars\u0131d\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n valideynl\u0259r "S\u0259n bunu bacarmazsan, ed\u0259 bilm\u0259zs\u0259n, s\u0259nlik deyil" kimi cüml\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259 edirl\u0259r. Bu kimi cüml\u0259l\u0259r art\u0131q yeniyetm\u0259nin beynin\u0259 oturur”.<\/p>\n

S.Bayramova bildirir ki, abituriyent yeniyetm\u0259lik böhran\u0131 dövründ\u0259 oldu\u011fu üçün imtahan dövrü onda ikiqat h\u0259y\u0259cana, stress\u0259 çevrilir: “H\u0259mçinin ail\u0259nin ondan gözl\u0259ntisi v\u0259 sair d\u0259 var. Bu zaman ail\u0259 özünü qoyur onun yerin\u0259. Dü\u015fünür ki, filank\u0259sin u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 universitet\u0259 q\u0259bul olacaq, m\u0259nimki yox. Y\u0259ni, m\u0259n, m\u0259n…
\nValideynl\u0259r öz eqolar\u0131n\u0131 qabardaraq özl\u0259rini dü\u015fünür v\u0259 bunlar\u0131 sanki u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n üz\u0259rin\u0259 köçürürl\u0259r".<\/p>\n

Abituriyentl\u0259r d\u0259, valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 psixoloji d\u0259st\u0259k almal\u0131d\u0131r<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Valideyn bu m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n üz\u0259rin\u0259 yükl\u0259yir v\u0259 u\u015faq bu yükün alt\u0131nda \u0259zilir. V\u0259 o yükün alt\u0131ndan nec\u0259 qalxmaq art\u0131q f\u0259rdi inki\u015fafa bax\u0131r. H\u0259r bir u\u015faq ba\u015fqa cür reaksiya göst\u0259r\u0259 bil\u0259r. El\u0259 u\u015faq var ki, m\u0259nfi, el\u0259 u\u015faq var ki, müsb\u0259t motivasiyal\u0131d\u0131r. B\u0259zi u\u015faqlar neqativ bir \u015fey des\u0259n, h\u0259v\u0259sd\u0259n dü\u015für, geri qal\u0131r, oxumaq ist\u0259mir, ancaq \u0259ksini etm\u0259k ist\u0259yir. El\u0259 u\u015faq da var ki, \u0259ksin\u0259, daha yax\u015f\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259 göst\u0259rir. Y\u0259ni, bu motivasiya f\u0259rqlidir. Amma m\u0259kt\u0259b dövründ\u0259, yeniyetm\u0259lik dövründ\u0259 olanlar üçün \u0259n m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tlisi müsb\u0259t motivasiyan\u0131n verilm\u0259yidir”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t görür ki, imtahana \u0259n az\u0131 iki ay qalm\u0131\u015f, valideynl\u0259r imtahan stressinin azald\u0131lmas\u0131 üçün psixoloji d\u0259st\u0259k als\u0131nlar: “Biz\u0259 müraci\u0259t ed\u0259nl\u0259r var. \u018fg\u0259r onlar zaman\u0131nda müraci\u0259t edibs\u0259, onunla vaxtl\u0131-vaxt\u0131nda i\u015fl\u0259nilibs\u0259, art\u0131q imtahana ged\u0259nd\u0259 u\u015faq özünü rahat hiss edir. Amma \u0259ks\u0259r\u0259n ümumi psixoloji haz\u0131rl\u0131q olmur. Valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 yükl\u0259yir, y\u0259ni psixoloji rahatlatmaq \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 \u0259ksini edir”.<\/p>\n

Valideyn övlad\u0131n\u0131  motivasiya etm\u0259lidir<\/strong><\/p>\n

Psixoloq deyir ki, valideynl\u0259r ilk növb\u0259d\u0259 övlad\u0131na onu qeyd-\u015f\u0259rtsiz sevdiyini hiss etdirm\u0259lidir: “Yaln\u0131z imtahandan keçs\u0259n, m\u0259n s\u0259ni çox ist\u0259y\u0259c\u0259m" kimi s\u0259tiralt\u0131 cüml\u0259l\u0259ri u\u015fa\u011fa ötürm\u0259m\u0259lidir. “S\u0259n imtahandan keçs\u0259n d\u0259, keçm\u0259s\u0259n d\u0259 bizim övlad\u0131m\u0131zsan. S\u0259n bizim üçün h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u0259ziz v\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259rlis\u0259n. Sad\u0259c\u0259 biz d\u0259 s\u0259nin q\u0259d\u0259r h\u0259y\u0259canl\u0131y\u0131q. S\u0259n imtahandan keçs\u0259n, biz d\u0259 bundan qürur duyar\u0131q. Amma pis n\u0259tic\u0259 göst\u0259rs\u0259n bel\u0259, inan\u0131r\u0131q ki, növb\u0259ti imtahanda daha yax\u015f\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259 göst\u0259r\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n". Valideyn öz övlad\u0131n\u0131 bel\u0259 motivasiya etm\u0259lidir".<\/p>\n

S.Bayramova qeyd edir ki, intiharlara t\u0259\u015f\u0259bbüs göst\u0259r\u0259n abituriyentl\u0259r d\u0259 olur: “T\u0259bii ki, ya\u015fant\u0131lar v\u0259 bel\u0259 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259rin payla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 da intihar t\u0259\u015f\u0259bbüsl\u0259rin\u0259 t\u0259sir edir. N\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 bel\u0259 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259ri oxuyur v\u0259 "h\u0259, m\u0259n d\u0259 intihar ed\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m, valideynimi bel\u0259 c\u0259zaland\u0131ra bil\u0259r\u0259m" dey\u0259 dü\u015fünür. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, o dü\u015fünür ki, m\u0259n bu ay q\u0259bul ola bilm\u0259dim, evd\u0259 m\u0259ni öldür\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Bu psixologiya il\u0259 intihar edir. Bununla yeniyetm\u0259 iki cür c\u0259za formas\u0131 verir: h\u0259m valideynini c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131r, h\u0259m d\u0259 valideyninin gözün\u0259 görünm\u0259d\u0259n özü özünün c\u0259zas\u0131n\u0131 verir. Dü\u015fünür ki, m\u0259n düzgün etm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m, ev\u0259 gets\u0259m, c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131lacam. B\u0259z\u0259n valideynl\u0259r "Bal a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olsa, ev\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259, gözüm\u0259 görünm\u0259, öldün s\u0259n, bitdin s\u0259n" kimi ifad\u0259l\u0259r i\u015fl\u0259dirl\u0259r. Bu cür ifad\u0259l\u0259r, k\u0259lm\u0259l\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n beynin\u0259 çox pis h\u0259kk olunur. V\u0259 o, öz yoxlu\u011fu il\u0259 valideynl\u0259rini c\u0259zaland\u0131rmaq ist\u0259yir”.<\/p>\n

"H\u0259r k\u0259s elml\u0259 m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olmal\u0131d\u0131r" kimi bir qanun yoxdur v\u0259 dünyada özün\u0259 yer tapmaq, özünü sübut etm\u0259k, hans\u0131sa pe\u015f\u0259nin sahibi olmaq üçün mütl\u0259q ali m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259 q\u0259bul olmaq vacib deyil. Sanki ali m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259 q\u0259bul olmaq bir marafon yar\u0131\u015f\u0131na çevrilib. Bu yar\u0131\u015fda qalib g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259ri is\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 çox böyük basq\u0131, t\u0259n\u0259 gözl\u0259yir. Kimisi bu basq\u0131lara qar\u015f\u0131 sin\u0259 g\u0259r\u0259, müqavim\u0259t göst\u0259r\u0259 bilir, kimisi is\u0259, n\u0259 yaz\u0131q ki, bu iqtidarda olmur v\u0259 çar\u0259ni arzuolunmaz sonluqlarda görür.<\/p>\n

Nazl\u0131 Allahverdiyeva<\/strong><\/p>\n

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S\u0259bin\u0259 Bayramova: "Abituriyentl\u0259r d\u0259, valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 psixoloji d\u0259st\u0259k almal\u0131d\u0131r" Art\u0131q ali m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259r\u0259 q\u0259bul imtahanlar\u0131na start verildi. \u0130mtahanlar\u0131n ikinci m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259si is\u0259 yay aylar\u0131nda ba\u015f tutacaq. H\u0259r il 100 mind\u0259n art\u0131q yeniyetm\u0259…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-77987","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/77987","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=77987"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/77987\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=77987"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=77987"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=77987"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}