{"id":68380,"date":"2018-09-06T19:14:22","date_gmt":"2018-09-06T15:14:22","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=68380","title":{"rendered":"\u201cSevdiyim insan orada q\u0259rib\u00e7ilik \u00e7\u0259km\u0259yim\u0259 izin vermir\u201d<\/b><\/font>"},"content":{"rendered":"

V\u0259fa R\u0259\u015fidova: “Bizd\u0259ki insanlar\u0131n probleml\u0259ri, qay\u011f\u0131lar\u0131 ba\u015fqad\u0131r, Ankarada müraci\u0259t ed\u0259n pasientl\u0259rin probleml\u0259ri is\u0259 tamam f\u0259rqli”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Az\u0259rbaycanda psixoloq olaraq f\u0259aliyy\u0259ti var idi, öz m\u0259rk\u0259zini d\u0259 yaratm\u0131\u015fd\u0131. Lakin sonra ail\u0259 qurdu\u011fu üçün Türkiy\u0259y\u0259 köçm\u0259li oldu. Getdiyind\u0259n bir müdd\u0259t sonra art\u0131q qarda\u015f ölk\u0259d\u0259 d\u0259 f\u0259aliyy\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131b. Bir neç\u0259 günlük bu yax\u0131nlarda ölk\u0259miz\u0259 g\u0259lmi\u015fdi, el\u0259 fürs\u0259td\u0259n istifad\u0259 edib haz\u0131rk\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259ri il\u0259 maraqland\u0131q. Müsahibimiz psixoloq V\u0259fa R\u0259\u015fidovad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

– N\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r vaxtd\u0131r art\u0131q Türkiy\u0259d\u0259siniz?<\/strong>
\n– Avqust ay\u0131nda bir il tamam olacaq.<\/p>\n

– Burda art\u0131q öz sah\u0259nizd\u0259 mü\u0259yy\u0259n nöqt\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259lib ç\u0131xm\u0131\u015fd\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130ndi d\u0259 orda f\u0259aliyy\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flam\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Buran\u0131 at\u0131b getm\u0259k ç\u0259tin g\u0259lm\u0259di?<\/strong>
\n– Az\u0259rbaycanda mü\u0259yy\u0259n bir yer\u0259 g\u0259lib ç\u0131xm\u0131\u015fd\u0131m v\u0259 bunun üçün çox \u0259ziyy\u0259t ç\u0259kmi\u015f\u0259m. Kim\u0259s\u0259 bu, adi g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r, amma m\u0259nim üçün el\u0259 olmay\u0131b. Çal\u0131\u015fd\u0131m v\u0259 h\u0259r bir \u015feyi özüm qurdum. Öz i\u015fimi daim çox sevmi\u015f\u0259m v\u0259 sevir\u0259m. Türkiy\u0259d\u0259 toyumuz oldu, bir müdd\u0259t sonra Ankaraya getdik. Çünki h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m da orda çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. Ankaraya g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259n bir-iki ay sonra art\u0131q i\u015f\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131m. H\u0259min i\u015f\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259rki o bo\u015f qald\u0131\u011f\u0131m müdd\u0259td\u0259 hiss edirdim ki, i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259s\u0259m n\u0259f\u0259sim çatmayacaq. \u0130\u015fim m\u0259nim n\u0259f\u0259simdir. Qarda\u015f ölk\u0259 olsaq da, ba\u015fqa bir ölk\u0259d\u0259 q\u0131sa müdd\u0259td\u0259 i\u015f tapmaq çox ç\u0259tindir. Amma Allahdan el\u0259 oldu ki, bu gün\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r ç\u0259kdiyim \u0259ziyy\u0259t, özüm\u0259 etdiyim o yat\u0131r\u0131m, burda kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r tan\u0131nma\u011f\u0131m, Qazi Universitetind\u0259 klinik psixoloq olaraq keçdiyim kurs v\u0259 rus dilini bilm\u0259yim m\u0259n\u0259 böyük d\u0259st\u0259k oldu v\u0259 i\u015f tapma\u011f\u0131m problem olmad\u0131<\/p>\n

– Klinik psixologiyan\u0131 n\u0259 vaxt öyr\u0259nmisiniz?<\/strong>
\n– Düzü, heç zaman klinik psixoloq oldu\u011fumu qabartmam\u0131\u015fam. Klinik psixologiya m\u0259nim z\u0259if yerimdir. Bu, h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 m\u0259ni maraqland\u0131r\u0131b v\u0259 d\u0259rind\u0259n öyr\u0259nm\u0259k h\u0259v\u0259sind\u0259 olmu\u015fam. El\u0259 dü\u015fünür\u0259m ki, \u0259g\u0259r bir müt\u0259x\u0259ssis klinik psixologiyada büdr\u0259yirs\u0259, üz\u0259rind\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259mirs\u0259, onun i\u015fi tam deyil. Psixoloq h\u0259m d\u0259 klinik psixologiyan\u0131 tam d\u0259rind\u0259n öyr\u0259nib m\u0259nims\u0259mlidir ki, pasientl\u0259rin\u0259 göz\u0259l d\u0259st\u0259k ola bilsin. Çünki, bunlar z\u0259ncirvari \u015feyl\u0259rdir. Ona gör\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259mi\u015fd\u0259n iki il önc\u0259 Qazi Universitetind\u0259 bunun t\u0259crüb\u0259sini keçmi\u015fdim. Ordan çox böyük zövq al\u0131\u015fd\u0131m.<\/p>\n

– \u0130nsanlar\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131 ölk\u0259l\u0259r\u0259, xalqlara gör\u0259 bir az f\u0259rqli olur. Maraql\u0131d\u0131r, ilk vaxtlar ordak\u0131 insanlarla i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259k v\u0259 öyr\u0259\u015fm\u0259k ç\u0259tin olmad\u0131 ki?<\/strong>
\n– \u018fslind\u0259, etnopsixologiya f\u0259rqlidir. Bizd\u0259ki insanlar\u0131n probleml\u0259ri, qay\u011f\u0131lar\u0131 ba\u015fqad\u0131r, Ankarada müraci\u0259t ed\u0259n pasientl\u0259rin probleml\u0259ri is\u0259 tamam f\u0259rqlidir. O \u015f\u0259h\u0259rd\u0259 f\u0259rqli ölk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n insanlar çoxdur v\u0259 \u0259sas problem d\u0259 m\u0259hz uy\u011funla\u015fma il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olur. Depressiya m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 müraci\u0259t edirl\u0259r. Amma Az\u0259rbaycanda ölk\u0259y\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fma problemi il\u0259 az-az rastla\u015fmaq olurdu.
\nÜmumi götür\u0259nd\u0259 is\u0259, harda insan varsa orada probleml\u0259r var. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131, talel\u0259ri b\u0259nz\u0259yir. Ail\u0259 probleml\u0259ri, ail\u0259daxili münasib\u0259tl\u0259r d\u0259 ox\u015fard\u0131r. Ail\u0259d\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n valideynl\u0259rl\u0259 münasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 çox ciddi probleml\u0259r olur.
\nÜmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 is\u0259, Türkiy\u0259d\u0259 ya\u015famaq, f\u0259aliyy\u0259t göst\u0259rm\u0259k h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n çox ç\u0259tindir. \u018fg\u0259r savad\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011funu görs\u0259l\u0259r, s\u0259ni ir\u0259li ç\u0259kib ba\u015flar\u0131na tac ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Yox, \u0259g\u0259r s\u0259nd\u0259 o potensial\u0131 görmürl\u0259rs\u0259, ç\u0259tin aya\u011fa qalx\u0131b n\u0259s\u0259 ed\u0259s\u0259n. M\u0259n Ankarada tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f psixoloq deyil\u0259m, çünki h\u0259l\u0259 orada 10 ayd\u0131r ki i\u015fl\u0259yir\u0259m. Amma m\u0259n el\u0259 bir i\u015fd\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yir\u0259m ki, mü\u0259yy\u0259n çevr\u0259d\u0259 pe\u015f\u0259kar psixoloq kimi tan\u0131n\u0131ram. Özümü b\u0259z\u0259n canavar psixologiyas\u0131 il\u0259 müqayis\u0259 edir\u0259m. Çünki ist\u0259diyim bir \u015fey\u0259 nail olmal\u0131yam. O da zaman t\u0259l\u0259b edir. T\u0259bii ki, h\u0259min an olmur. Bir psixoloq kimi uy\u011funla\u015fma prosesim çox ç\u0259tin olmad\u0131, özüm-özüm\u0259 köm\u0259k ed\u0259 bildim.<\/p>\n

– Pasientl\u0259riniz \u0259sas\u0259n kiml\u0259r olur?<\/strong>
\n– \u0130lk olaraq onu deyim ki, m\u0259n h\u0259r zaman narahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131 çox olan pasientl\u0259rl\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131ram. M\u0259n\u0259 el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, pasientin problemi n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259rindirs\u0259, n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r çox \u0259ziyy\u0259t ç\u0259kir\u0259ms\u0259, ür\u0259k qoyuramsa, ondan h\u0259zz al\u0131ram.
\nM\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n yana\u015fsaq, ail\u0259, yeniyetm\u0259 v\u0259 g\u0259ncl\u0259rl\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yir\u0259m. M\u0259nim köm\u0259yim\u0259 ehtiyac\u0131 olan u\u015faq gör\u0259nd\u0259 d\u0259 t\u0259bii ki d\u0259st\u0259yimi \u0259sirg\u0259mir\u0259m. Özüm\u0259 v\u0259 s\u0259n\u0259tim\u0259 v\u0259 \u0259n \u0259sas\u0131 u\u015fa\u011fa q\u0131ymaram. \u018flimd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259ni ed\u0259r\u0259m. Amma daha çox böyükl\u0259rl\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 meyilliy\u0259m. Bel\u0259 ki, daha böyük probleml\u0259ri h\u0259ll etm\u0259k, a\u015f\u0131rmaq daha çox c\u0259lb edib.<\/p>\n

– Dediniz ki, \u0259sas\u0259n a\u011f\u0131r probemli pasientl\u0259rl\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yirsiniz. \u0130nsanlar a\u011f\u0131r probleml\u0259rini dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131qda siz\u0259 m\u0259nfi enerjini ötürmü\u015f olmurlar?<\/strong>
\n– M\u0259nfi enerjinin ötürülm\u0259m\u0259si mümkünsüz \u015feydir. T\u0259s\u0259vvür edin ki, bir saatl\u0131q a\u011f\u0131r v\u0259 d\u0259rin konsultasiyadan söhb\u0259t gedirs\u0259, t\u0259bii ki, yükl\u0259nirs\u0259n, yorulursan. Amma h\u0259r psixoloqun bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 özünün sirrl\u0259ri var, bu da m\u0259nim sirrimdir. Y\u0259ni, bu m\u0259nim üçün problem deyil, bunu atlada bilir\u0259m (Gülür)<\/em>.<\/p>\n

– Qarda\u015f ölk\u0259 olsa da, ba\u015fqa bir ölk\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259lin getmisiniz. Bir az da bundan dan\u0131\u015faq…<\/strong>
\n– Dü\u015fünür\u0259m ki, sevm\u0259s\u0259ydim Bak\u0131dan uzaqda qala bilm\u0259zdim. Amma sevir\u0259m ax\u0131.. Eyni zamanda da sevilir\u0259m… Sevdiyim insan orada q\u0259ribçilik ç\u0259km\u0259yim\u0259 izin vermir. Daima gül\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fan insanam. B\u0259z\u0259n Bak\u0131 e\u015fqim tutur, dostlar\u0131m yax\u0131nlar\u0131m yad\u0131ma dü\u015für. \u0130st\u0259yir\u0259m ki, onlarla \u0130ç\u0259ri\u015f\u0259h\u0259rd\u0259 oturub bir çay içim. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m bunu hiss edir. V\u0259 o an h\u0259min hissi m\u0259nd\u0259n el\u0259 uzaqla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r ki, heç özüm d\u0259 hiss etmir\u0259m. Bir d\u0259 görür\u0259m ki, q\u0259ribçilik hissi m\u0259nd\u0259n gedib.<\/p>\n

– Yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131z da psixoloqdur, bunun da rolu var y\u0259qin…<\/strong>
\n– \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, rolu var. O el\u0259 \u015feyl\u0259ri üzüm\u0259 vurmur. Amma m\u0259n d\u0259 tez-tez gedib ona demir\u0259m ki, Bak\u0131 üçün dar\u0131xd\u0131m, ora getm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m. Onsuz da o Bak\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259diyimi bilir. Bunu h\u0259r d\u0259qiq\u0259 vur\u011fulama\u011f\u0131ma ehtiyac yoxdur.<\/p>\n

– \u0130ki psixoloqun evli olma\u011f\u0131n\u0131n üstün t\u0259r\u0259fi n\u0259dir?<\/strong>
\n– \u018fn üstün c\u0259h\u0259ti odur ki, onlar söhb\u0259t etm\u0259yi bacar\u0131rlar. M\u0259n b\u0259z\u0259n görür\u0259m ki, cütlükl\u0259r aylarla söhb\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 bilirl\u0259r. Bu m\u0259ni h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 çox dü\u015fündürür. Ona gör\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131ram ki, m\u0259n\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n pasientl\u0259r çoxlu söhb\u0259t etsinl\u0259r, dan\u0131\u015fs\u0131nlar. \u0130nsan pulsuzluqdan, az yem\u0259kd\u0259n v\u0259 az geyinm\u0259kd\u0259n, az g\u0259zm\u0259kd\u0259n m\u0259hv olmur. \u0130nsan\u0131 öldür\u0259n, m\u0259hv ed\u0259n yegan\u0259 bir \u015fey var, o da ünsiyy\u0259tsizlik, bölü\u015fm\u0259m\u0259k. Biz bölü\u015f\u0259, yaxud n\u0259s\u0259 ail\u0259daxili problem ya\u015fayanda, vaxt ay\u0131r\u0131b bir çay iç\u0259r\u0259k onu h\u0259ll ed\u0259, gözl\u0259rimiz\u0259 baxaraq dan\u0131\u015fa v\u0259 problemi kökünd\u0259n h\u0259ll ed\u0259 bilirik. Bu Allah\u0131n bir nem\u0259tidir. \u0130ki psixoloqun bir arada olmas\u0131 bax budur. Ünsiyy\u0259td\u0259n \u0259lav\u0259 hörm\u0259t d\u0259 burada böyük rol oynay\u0131r. O m\u0259nim i\u015fim\u0259 hörm\u0259t edir, m\u0259n d\u0259 onunkuna. Söz-söhb\u0259timiz dü\u015f\u0259nd\u0259 arada olan o p\u0259rd\u0259ni götürm\u0259d\u0259n, körpül\u0259ri yand\u0131rmadan h\u0259ll etm\u0259k çox göz\u0259ldir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, m\u0259n ona söhb\u0259t etm\u0259k ist\u0259diyimi des\u0259m, o, bunun üçün i\u015fini gecikdir\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bununla da i\u015fi h\u0259ll edirik.<\/p>\n

– H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131zla ayr\u0131-ayr\u0131 yerl\u0259rd\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z?<\/strong>
\n– B\u0259li, m\u0259n Rusiya s\u0259firliyinin n\u0259zdind\u0259 olan Rus Kültür M\u0259rk\u0259zinin psixoloqu olaraq çal\u0131\u015f\u0131ram. Eyni zamanda Ahmed b\u0259y lisey r\u0259hb\u0259ridir. Oran\u0131n i\u015fini b\u0259rab\u0259r \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 yürüdürük. Oran\u0131n bütün psixoloji i\u015fl\u0259ri m\u0259nim üstümd\u0259dir.<\/p>\n

– Bura q\u0131sa müdd\u0259tlik g\u0259lmisiniz, amma dediniz ki pasient d\u0259 q\u0259bul edirsiniz…<\/strong>
\n– Pasiyentl\u0259rimi yar\u0131 yolda qoya bilm\u0259dim. M\u0259n\u0259 deyirl\u0259r ki, b\u0259s s\u0259n bura istirah\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259lmi\u015fdin n\u0259 oldu, seans edirs\u0259n? El\u0259 ba\u015fa dü\u015für\u0259m ki, onlar\u0131n buna ehtiyac\u0131 var. Ehtiyaclar\u0131 olmasa m\u0259ni aray\u0131b, axtarmazlar. Ölk\u0259d\u0259 o q\u0259d\u0259r psixoloq var ki, müraci\u0259t ed\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Pasientl\u0259rim aylard\u0131r m\u0259ni gözl\u0259yirl\u0259r, onlara qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131q verm\u0259y\u0259 borcluyam. Y\u0259ni, el\u0259 bilir\u0259m ki, onlar\u0131 q\u0259bul etm\u0259s\u0259m, “burdayam, amma istirah\u0259t edir\u0259m, m\u0259ni üzürlü hesab edin des\u0259m” x\u0259yan\u0259t etmi\u015f olaram.<\/p>\n

Könül \u018fhm\u0259dova<\/strong><\/p>\n

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V\u0259fa R\u0259\u015fidova: “Bizd\u0259ki insanlar\u0131n probleml\u0259ri, qay\u011f\u0131lar\u0131 ba\u015fqad\u0131r, Ankarada müraci\u0259t ed\u0259n pasientl\u0259rin probleml\u0259ri is\u0259 tamam f\u0259rqli” Az\u0259rbaycanda psixoloq olaraq f\u0259aliyy\u0259ti var idi, öz m\u0259rk\u0259zini d\u0259 yaratm\u0131\u015fd\u0131. Lakin sonra ail\u0259 qurdu\u011fu üçün…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[94],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-68380","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-musahibe"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68380","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=68380"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68380\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=68380"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=68380"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=68380"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}