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Aydan N\u0259z\u0259rova:<\/strong> “U\u015faq bir s\u0259hv h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t ed\u0259n zaman “olmaz” dem\u0259k düzgün deyil, onun s\u0259b\u0259bini u\u015fa\u011fa izah etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, o öz s\u0259hvini ba\u015fa dü\u015fsün”<\/em>
\nLal\u0259 Mehral\u0131:<\/strong> “\u018fks\u0259r valideynl\u0259r u\u015fa\u011fa ev\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n qona\u011f\u0131 göst\u0259rib “\u0259miy\u0259 bir söy görüm” deyir, u\u015faq böyüy\u0259nd\u0259n sonra a\u011fz\u0131 söyü\u015flü biri olanda is\u0259 valideyn harda s\u0259hv etdiyini dü\u015fünür”<\/em><\/p>\n

U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k h\u0259yat\u0131nda düzgün t\u0259rbiy\u0259nin rolu böyükdür. H\u0259r valideynin d\u0259 özün\u0259m\u0259xsus t\u0259rbiy\u0259 üsulu var. Amma b\u0259z\u0259n valideynl\u0259r sonradan pe\u015fman olurlar ki, bu üsulda t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etdim, yana\u015fd\u0131m dey\u0259 ist\u0259diyim n\u0259tic\u0259ni almad\u0131m. B\u0259s \u0259slind\u0259 nec\u0259 etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r, u\u015faqlar\u0131 düzgün t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259k üçün döym\u0259k çar\u0259dirmi? <\/p>\n

\"\"Mövzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 “Üç nöqt\u0259”y\u0259 aç\u0131qlama ver\u0259n u\u015faq psixoloqu Aydan N\u0259z\u0259rova bildirdi ki,<\/strong> haz\u0131rda valideynl\u0259rimiz aras\u0131nda sovet dövrünün c\u0259zaland\u0131rma metodikas\u0131 il\u0259 ged\u0259nl\u0259r çoxdur: “Küncd\u0259 dayan, bir ayaq üstünd\u0259 dayan, noxudu yer\u0259 tök, onun üstünd\u0259 dayan, yaxud ota\u011fa sal\u0131b qap\u0131n\u0131 üzün\u0259 ba\u011flay\u0131rd\u0131lar. B\u0259z\u0259n u\u015faqlara qorxu g\u0259lirdil\u0259r ki, yem\u0259yini yem\u0259s\u0259n qara paltarl\u0131 ki\u015fi g\u0259lib s\u0259ni aparacaq, s\u0259nin anan olmayacam, s\u0259ni u\u015faq evin\u0259 ver\u0259c\u0259yik v\u0259 s. bu kimi m\u0259nfi t\u0259sirli cüml\u0259l\u0259r, sözl\u0259r i\u015fl\u0259dirdil\u0259r. Bu da u\u015faqlarda \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin formala\u015fma dön\u0259mind\u0259 u\u015faqlarda çox böyük qüsurlar – itirm\u0259 qorxusu, natamaml\u0131q kompleksi, fobiyalar, h\u0259y\u0259can t\u0259\u015fvi\u015fi yarad\u0131rd\u0131. Stress\u0259 davams\u0131z, özgüv\u0259nsiz olurdular. Valideynl\u0259rin bu cür davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 u\u015faqlarda psixoloji narahatl\u0131qlar\u0131n formala\u015fmas\u0131na g\u0259tirib ç\u0131xar\u0131r.  Ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlarla davranark\u0259n h\u0259r zaman çox diqq\u0259tli olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Misal üçün, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u0259li d\u0259yib st\u0259kan\u0131 s\u0131nd\u0131ran zaman b\u0259zi valideynl\u0259r ona kobud \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 “korsan, görmürs\u0259n?!” kimi sözl\u0259r deyirl\u0259r. Amma daha yax\u015f\u0131 olar ki, bir az yum\u015faq \u015f\u0259kild\u0259, “balam, s\u0259n bunu görm\u0259din s\u0131nd\u0131rd\u0131n? Bax indi biz buna t\u0259z\u0259d\u0259n pul verib almal\u0131y\u0131q” kimi sözl\u0259rl\u0259 giri\u015f etsinl\u0259r. Amma valideynl\u0259rin çoxu u\u015faqla münasib\u0259td\u0259 s\u0259brsiz davran\u0131r, u\u015faqla zaman keçirm\u0259yi böyük bir i\u015f kimi görürl\u0259r. Özl\u0259rin\u0259 \u0259ziyy\u0259t vermir, özl\u0259ri sovet dövrünün t\u0259siri alt\u0131nda böyüdükl\u0259ri üçün u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 da bu t\u0259sird\u0259 böyütm\u0259k ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Amma bununla u\u015fa\u011fa aqressiya yönl\u0259ndirmi\u015f olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 dü\u015fünmürl\u0259r”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloqun sözl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259 valideynl\u0259rin c\u0259zaland\u0131rma növl\u0259ri müxt\u0259lifdir: “M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlara söz-\u0259l \u015fidd\u0259ti yönl\u0259ndirm\u0259m\u0259lidir.  Çünki u\u015faqlar\u0131n beyni a\u011f ka\u011f\u0131zd\u0131r, biz onlara n\u0259 des\u0259k onu etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayacaqlar. Söz-\u0259l \u015fidd\u0259t olaraq valideynl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n u\u015faqlara qar\u015f\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259dil\u0259n b\u0259zi ifad\u0259l\u0259r (söyü\u015fl\u0259r) var ki, onlar\u0131 istifad\u0259 etm\u0259k olmaz. Bu düzgün bir add\u0131m deyil. Texnologiya \u0259sri oldu\u011fu üçün u\u015faq bilm\u0259diyi sözün m\u0259nas\u0131n\u0131 girib internetd\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131r\u0131b öyr\u0259n\u0259c\u0259k. H\u0259min sözü axtaran zaman orada ona b\u0259nz\u0259r bir neç\u0259 sözü d\u0259 öyr\u0259nmi\u015f olacaq. Valideynl\u0259r göz gör\u0259-gör\u0259 övladlar\u0131n\u0131 m\u0259nfiy\u0259 istiqam\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259li deyill\u0259r. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131 qar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za qoyub onunla söhb\u0259t etm\u0259li, izah etm\u0259liyik.  U\u015faq bir s\u0259hv h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t ed\u0259n zaman “olmaz” dem\u0259k düzgün deyil, onun s\u0259b\u0259bini u\u015fa\u011fa izah etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, o öz s\u0259hvini ba\u015fa dü\u015fsün. \u018fg\u0259r biz u\u015fa\u011fa ancaq “etm\u0259, el\u0259m\u0259, olmaz, d\u0259ym\u0259” sözl\u0259rini des\u0259k, bir gün s\u0259bri da\u015facaq. Dü\u015fün\u0259c\u0259k ki, gör\u0259s\u0259n bu olmazlar n\u0259dir, qoy gedim bunu edim görüm n\u0259 olur… V\u0259 gedib onu ed\u0259c\u0259k, yanl\u0131\u015flara, uçuruma ged\u0259c\u0259k”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq u\u015faqlarla düzgün davranmaq üçün Bihevioral Koqnitiv Terapiya (c\u0259za-mükafat) növünd\u0259n istifad\u0259 etm\u0259yi m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t gördükl\u0259rini vur\u011fulad\u0131: “U\u015faqlar\u0131 eyni anda n\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 h\u0259tr\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259 mükafatland\u0131rmal\u0131, n\u0259 d\u0259 pis h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259 c\u0259zaland\u0131rmal\u0131y\u0131q. Valideynl\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131n h\u0259m c\u0259zas\u0131n\u0131, h\u0259m d\u0259 mükafat\u0131n\u0131 verm\u0259yi bacarmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. U\u015fa\u011fa qorxu g\u0259lm\u0259kl\u0259, döym\u0259kl\u0259, etik qaydalara uy\u011fun olmayan h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir ifad\u0259l\u0259r s\u0259sl\u0259ndirm\u0259kl\u0259 c\u0259za verm\u0259k olmaz. U\u015faq n\u0259s\u0259 bir s\u0259hv h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t ed\u0259nd\u0259 ana deyir ki, ax\u015fam atan ev\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259 dey\u0259c\u0259m s\u0259ni döysün, öldürsün. Atan\u0131 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n gözünd\u0259 \u0259zrail\u0259 çevirm\u0259k olmaz”. <\/p>\n

A.N\u0259z\u0259rova deyir ki, bu gün ya\u015fan\u0131lan probleml\u0259rin bir çoxu n\u0259n\u0259-babalarla ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r: “ Düzdür, n\u0259n\u0259-babalar ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tac\u0131d\u0131r, amma burda bir nüans\u0131 qeyd etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. N\u0259n\u0259-babalar bir az s\u0259brsizdir, n\u0259v\u0259l\u0259rinin a\u011flamas\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259mirl\u0259r, ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r\u0259 deyirl\u0259r ki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 a\u011flatma, n\u0259 ist\u0259yirs\u0259 ver. Bu düzgün t\u0259rbiy\u0259 metodu deyil, u\u015faq h\u0259r a\u011flay\u0131b, q\u0131\u015fq\u0131randa ist\u0259diyini verm\u0259k olmaz. Bir amili d\u0259 d\u0259 qeyd edim ki, u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tini c\u0259miyy\u0259t içind\u0259 s\u0131nd\u0131rmaq, alçaltmaq olmaz. Misal üçün, yeniyetm\u0259 bir u\u015faq g\u0259lib valdieynl\u0259rin\u0259 deyir ki, dostlar\u0131mla filan yer\u0259 getm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m. Ana” olmaz”, ata is\u0259 “h\u0259 qoy getsin, burda n\u0259 var ki?” deyir. Bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r \u0259sass\u0131z ail\u0259l\u0259rdir. Ata, ana ba\u015fqa-ba\u015fqa sözl\u0259r deyir, u\u015faq da ortal\u0131qda qal\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259 olaraq ata v\u0259 ana dala\u015f\u0131r, u\u015faq da gedib ist\u0259diyini edir. Ona gör\u0259 u\u015faqik\u0259n övladlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 düzgün yönd\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259liyik ki, art\u0131q böyüy\u0259nd\u0259 bu kimi probleml\u0259rl\u0259 rastla\u015fmayaq. U\u015faqlar\u0131n etdiyi yax\u015f\u0131 h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 gör\u0259 mütl\u0259q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 onlar\u0131 mükafatland\u0131rmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, h\u0259v\u0259sl\u0259nsinl\u0259r. Valideyn olmaq asand\u0131r, h\u0259r k\u0259s valideyn ola bil\u0259r. \u018fsas olan o statusu da\u015f\u0131maq, v\u0259zif\u0259 v\u0259 öhd\u0259likl\u0259rini yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259kdir. \u018fg\u0259r biz bunu ed\u0259 biliriks\u0259, dem\u0259li \u0259sil valideynik”.   <\/p>\n

A.N\u0259z\u0259rova onu da qeyd etdi ki, n\u0259 fiziki, n\u0259 d\u0259 söz\u0259l \u015fidd\u0259ti u\u015faqlara uy\u011fulamaq olmaz: “U\u015faqlar n\u0259 görürs\u0259, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 d\u0259 onu t\u0259krar edirl\u0259r. Düzgün t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n istiqam\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, onlar da g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 öz övladlar\u0131n\u0131 düzgün t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259yi bacars\u0131nlar.  Valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259k üçün döyürs\u0259, bu kimi c\u0259zalar verirs\u0259 onun daxilind\u0259 aqressiya yaran\u0131r, psixologiyas\u0131 pozulur. Valideynl\u0259r çal\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, bu aqressiya il\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yin psixopat\u0131n\u0131 yeti\u015fdirm\u0259sinl\u0259r”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq \u0259lav\u0259 etdi ki, xarici ölk\u0259l\u0259rin t\u0259crüb\u0259sind\u0259 is\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 metodu daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r: “Orda u\u015faqlar\u0131 döym\u0259k, q\u0131\u015fq\u0131rmaq yoxdur.  Avropada Bihevioral Koqnitiv Terapiya istiqam\u0259tli t\u0259rbiy\u0259 metodu apar\u0131l\u0131r. Y\u0259ni, u\u015fa\u011fa m\u0259suliyy\u0259t yükl\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k, izahat v\u0259 emosional c\u0259zalar ver\u0259r\u0259k u\u015faqlar\u0131 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 edirl\u0259r. U\u015faq art\u0131q etdiyi s\u0259hvi ba\u015fa dü\u015fm\u0259lidir. Bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n s\u0259hvini ona izah etm\u0259k sistemi bir az z\u0259ifdir”.<\/p>\n

\"\"Jurnalist-sosioloq, Sa\u011flam C\u0259miyy\u0259t \u0130B-nin s\u0259dri Lal\u0259 Mehral\u0131 is\u0259 bildirdi ki<\/strong>, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yimizin qurucular\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259r\u0259 bir cür t\u0259rbiy\u0259 edir – kimisi sözl\u0259, kimisi köt\u0259kl\u0259… T\u0259\u0259ssüfl\u0259ndirici bir hald\u0131r ki, indi u\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 \u0259n çox \u0259l at\u0131lan üsul fiziki c\u0259zad\u0131r: “Halbuki t\u0259rbiy\u0259l\u0259ndirm\u0259d\u0259 c\u0259za verm\u0259yin onlarla növü var v\u0259 onlar\u0131n heç biri zorak\u0131l\u0131q t\u0259tbiq etm\u0259k dem\u0259k deyil. Valideynl\u0259r c\u0259za verm\u0259y\u0259, ad\u0259t\u0259n, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 künc\u0259 qoymaqla ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. Sonrak\u0131 m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri, z\u0259nnimc\u0259, dem\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac yoxdur. \u018fvv\u0259lc\u0259 bir \u015fill\u0259d\u0259n ba\u015flay\u0131r, sonra iki, üç v\u0259 daha çox \u015fill\u0259, qulaqdartma, saçlar\u0131n\u0131 ç\u0259km\u0259, \u0259ll\u0259rin\u0259 vurma. V\u0259ziyy\u0259t getdikc\u0259 pisl\u0259\u015fir, valideyn daha \u0259ll\u0259rin\u0259 güv\u0259nmir, u\u015fa\u011fa c\u0259za ver\u0259nd\u0259 ba\u015fqa \u0259\u015fyalardan istifad\u0259 edir. \u0130lkin vaxtlarda u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n arxas\u0131nca at\u0131lan bir ayaqqab\u0131, hans\u0131sa bir oyuncaq, televizorun pultu, stol üstünd\u0259ki q\u0259ndqab\u0131, st\u0259kan olurdu. Amma vaxt keçdikc\u0259 valideyn bununla da kifay\u0259tl\u0259nmir, indi m\u0259tb\u0259xd\u0259k\u0131 "köm\u0259kçil\u0259r" i\u015f\u0259 dü\u015für, böyük taxta qa\u015f\u0131q, oxlov… v\u0259 bu cür valideynl\u0259r bütün bu üsullar\u0131 "c\u0259za" adland\u0131rmaqla övladlar\u0131na "t\u0259rbiy\u0259" verm\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar”. <\/p>\n

L.Mehral\u0131n\u0131n sözl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259, bir çox valideyn var ki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 zorla yedirir: “M\u0259n psixoloq deyil\u0259m, amma bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n zorla yedirilm\u0259sinin ona m\u0259n\u0259vi \u0259ziyy\u0259t oldu\u011funu anlamaq üçün psixoloq olma\u011fa ehtiyac yoxdur. U\u015faqlar\u0131 heç vaxt m\u0259cbur\u0259n yedirtm\u0259yin. Bu zaman u\u015faq anadan sevgi yox, zorak\u0131l\u0131q görür. Çünki o anlam\u0131r ki, siz onu yedirtm\u0259kl\u0259 onu sa\u011flam böyütm\u0259k niyy\u0259tind\u0259siniz, o sizin niy\u0259 bel\u0259 etdiyiniz\u0259 t\u0259\u0259ccüb edir. Bel\u0259 u\u015faqlar is\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 h\u0259r \u015feyin yaln\u0131z zorak\u0131l\u0131q say\u0259sind\u0259 mümkün oldu\u011funa inan\u0131rlar. Bunun n\u0259tic\u0259sidir ki, h\u0259min usaqlar böyüyüb valideyn olduqlar\u0131 zaman onlara göst\u0259ril\u0259n zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 öz u\u015faqlar\u0131na t\u0259tbiq edirl\u0259r. U\u015fa\u011fa özünd\u0259n böyükl\u0259rl\u0259 ist\u0259diyi kimi r\u0259ftar etm\u0259y\u0259 icaz\u0259 verdikl\u0259rind\u0259n onlar böyükl\u0259rin saç\u0131n\u0131 dart\u0131r, \u0259ll\u0259rind\u0259kini ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Ana is\u0259 bunlara \u015f\u0131ltaql\u0131q kimi bax\u0131r. Lakin u\u015faq böyüy\u0259n kimi bu xasiyy\u0259ti bird\u0259n-bir\u0259 qada\u011fan edirl\u0259r. U\u015fa\u011fa el\u0259 g\u0259lir k\u0131, onunla \u0259dal\u0259tsiz r\u0259ftar edirl\u0259r. Buna gör\u0259 o, t\u0259rslik edir, söz\u0259 qulaq asm\u0131r. \u018fv\u0259zind\u0259 valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131r”. <\/p>\n

Jurnalist-sosioloq qeyd etdi ki, \u0259ks\u0259r valideynl\u0259r ev\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n qona\u011f\u0131 u\u015fa\u011fa göst\u0259rib “\u0259miy\u0259 bir söy görüm” deyir, u\u015faq böyüy\u0259nd\u0259n sonra a\u011fz\u0131 söyü\u015flü biri olanda is\u0259 valideyn harda s\u0259hv etdiyini dü\u015fünür: “Düzdür, bir çoxumuzun övlad\u0131 h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q d\u0259c\u0259ldir, hiperaktiv adland\u0131r\u0131lan, ç\u0259tin t\u0259rbiy\u0259 olunan tipd\u0259ndir. Zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa \u0259l atma\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, c\u0259za verm\u0259yimizi d\u0259 çox vaxt bununla \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259ndiririk. T\u0259rbiy\u0259 verm\u0259k dey\u0259nd\u0259 bir çoxunun a\u011fl\u0131na ilk olaraq c\u0259zaland\u0131rma g\u0259lir. H\u0259l\u0259 el aras\u0131nda bel\u0259 bir m\u0259s\u0259l d\u0259 var, "q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 döym\u0259y\u0259n dizini döy\u0259r". Burada "döym\u0259y\u0259n" sözünü d\u0131rnaqda q\u0259bul edib, t\u0259rbiy\u0259 verm\u0259y\u0259n kimi anlamaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fslind\u0259, t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259k v\u0259 c\u0259zaland\u0131rmaq bir-birind\u0259n çox f\u0259rqli anlay\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. T\u0259rbiy\u0259 – u\u015fa\u011fa müsb\u0259t davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n a\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131, özünü aparma qaydalar\u0131, ba\u015fqalar\u0131na münasib\u0259t, \u0259traf al\u0259m\u0259 sevgi kimi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri özünd\u0259 birl\u0259\u015fdirir. C\u0259zaland\u0131rma is\u0259 m\u0259nfi m\u0259na verir, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n bil\u0259r\u0259kd\u0259n v\u0259 ya bilm\u0259y\u0259r\u0259kd\u0259n etdiyi bir h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 gör\u0259 ç\u0131xar\u0131lan "hökm"dür. U\u015faqlar zamanla veril\u0259n c\u0259zaya bir növ adaptasiya olurlar, onlar art\u0131q növb\u0259ti c\u0259zan\u0131n nec\u0259 olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dü\u015fünmürl\u0259r. Dü\u015fündükl\u0259ri birc\u0259 \u015fey var: "keç\u0259n d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 pis h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t etmi\u015fdim, bir \u015fill\u0259 il\u0259 c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131m, qoy bu d\u0259f\u0259 lap iki \u015fill\u0259 olsun, heç n\u0259 olmaz". Bu hallarda onlar\u0131 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259yin \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 yolu iki \u015fill\u0259 yerin\u0259 t\u0259n\u0259li bir bax\u0131\u015f, danlamaq v\u0259 yaxud da ondan küsm\u0259kdir. U\u015faqlar valideynin onlardan küsm\u0259sin\u0259 daha çox reaksiya verirl\u0259r. Onlar ata-analar\u0131n\u0131 çox sevdikl\u0259rind\u0259n onlar\u0131 bir d\u0259 m\u0259yus etm\u0259m\u0259k haqda dü\u015fünürl\u0259r”.<\/p>\n

Könül \u018fhm\u0259dova<\/strong><\/p>\n

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