{"id":59007,"date":"2018-02-15T14:26:58","date_gmt":"2018-02-15T10:26:58","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=59007","title":{"rendered":"\u201cAil\u0259l\u0259ri da\u011f\u0131dan sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259r\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mehriban Zeynalova:<\/strong> “Daxili t\u0259nhal\u0131q hissin\u0259 qap\u0131lanlar sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259ni özl\u0259ri üçün h\u0259yat t\u0259rzin\u0259 çevirirl\u0259r”<\/em>
\nOrxan Oruc: <\/strong>““\u018fn yax\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259 gördüyüm qaçan g\u0259lin edib, m\u0259n d\u0259 el\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259m” dü\u015fünc\u0259si il\u0259, bu add\u0131m\u0131 at\u0131rlar”<\/em>
\nCavid \u0130mamo\u011flu:<\/strong> “Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu \u015f\u0259xs\u0259 gör\u0259 öz ail\u0259sini at\u0131b ba\u015fqas\u0131 il\u0259 getm\u0259k sosial bacar\u0131qs\u0131zl\u0131qd\u0131r”<\/em><\/p>\n

\u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r subay bir q\u0131z\u0131n sevdiyi o\u011flana qo\u015fulub qaçd\u0131\u011f\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259ri diqq\u0259t ç\u0259kirdis\u0259, indi  evli xan\u0131mlar\u0131n sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rl\u0259 qaçmas\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259ri çoxal\u0131b. Bu cür hallarla son zamanlar dem\u0259k olar ki, tez-tez rastla\u015f\u0131r\u0131q. Düzdür, bu cür qad\u0131nlar q\u0131naq obyekti olur. H\u0259r k\u0259s öz t\u0259birinc\u0259 buna müxt\u0259lif s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r g\u0259tirir. B\u0259s \u0259slind\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r n\u0259l\u0259rdir?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mövzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 “Üç nöqt\u0259”y\u0259 aç\u0131qlama ver\u0259n “T\u0259miz Dünya” Qad\u0131nlara Yard\u0131m \u0130ctimai Birliyinin r\u0259hb\u0259ri Mehriban Zeynalova<\/strong> bildirdi ki, ail\u0259 üzvl\u0259rinin bir-birin\u0259 kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r diqq\u0259t göst\u0259rm\u0259m\u0259si, probleml\u0259ri il\u0259 maraqlanmamas\u0131 b\u0259z\u0259n insanlar\u0131n h\u0259min qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131 k\u0259narda axtarmas\u0131na g\u0259tirib ç\u0131xar\u0131r:
\n\"\"“Ail\u0259d\u0259 kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r diqq\u0259t v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131 olsa, \u015f\u0259xs k\u0259nardak\u0131 qay\u011f\u0131ya ehtiyac görm\u0259z. Y\u0259ni, ail\u0259d\u0259ki \u015f\u0259rait bu probleml\u0259rin yaranmas\u0131na g\u0259tirib ç\u0131xar\u0131r. Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 b\u0259zil\u0259ri üçün \u0259lveri\u015fli mühitdir. Xüsusi niyy\u0259tli insanlar var ki, m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259ri kiml\u0259ris\u0259 yoldan ç\u0131xarmaqd\u0131r. Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259r onlar\u0131n bu niyy\u0259tl\u0259rini h\u0259yata keçirm\u0259yi daha \u0259lçatan edir. Kim\u0259s\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015fmaq, kim\u0259s\u0259 vaxt itirm\u0259k, hans\u0131sa pul x\u0259rcl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac olmadan sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 oturaraq çox rahat \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 bunu h\u0259yata keçirirl\u0259r. Bu sah\u0259d\u0259 kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 pe\u015f\u0259karla\u015f\u0131rlar. Eyni zamanda, on n\u0259f\u0259rl\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131b, sonda birini “qarma\u011fa keçirir\u0259r\u0259k” öz niyy\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 çatm\u0131\u015f olurlar. Hesab edir\u0259m ki, bu günün \u0259n aktual m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n biridir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259 oynamaq, onlar\u0131n etibar\u0131ndan istifad\u0259 etm\u0259k cinay\u0259tdir”.<\/p>\n

M.Zeynalova deyir ki, b\u0259z\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin xan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n k\u0259nar tutmalar\u0131n\u0131 müsb\u0259t add\u0131m hesab etm\u0259k olar: “Amma zorak\u0131l\u0131qla qada\u011fa qoyanda, s\u0259b\u0259bini izah etm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259, yaxud, öz davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 aqressiyaya s\u0259b\u0259b ola bil\u0259r. Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 oturanlar kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r haz\u0131rl\u0131ql\u0131 insanlar deyill\u0259r ki, bu \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259ri i\u015f, informasiya bölü\u015fm\u0259k, informasiya \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259k m\u0259qs\u0259di üçün istifad\u0259 etsinl\u0259r. B\u0259z\u0259n daxili t\u0259nhal\u0131q hissin\u0259 qap\u0131lanlar sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259ni özl\u0259ri üçün h\u0259yat t\u0259rzin\u0259 çevirirl\u0259r. Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bir çox hallarda insanlar olduqlar\u0131ndan f\u0259rqli görünm\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Özünü realiz\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259n insanlar daha çox sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 diqq\u0259t c\u0259lb etm\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq Orxan Oruc<\/strong> bildirdi ki, bunun ilkin s\u0259b\u0259bi insanlar\u0131n öz sevdikl\u0259ri \u015f\u0259xs il\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmamalar\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r:
\n“\u0130kincisi is\u0259, insan könüllü \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qura bilm\u0259diyi kimi, könüllü \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 d\u0259, ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131na son qoya bilmir y\u0259ni, ayr\u0131lma q\u0259rar\u0131 ver\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r. V\u0259 bunun n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131 il\u0259 qaçma\u011fa üstünlük verirl\u0259r. Dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n is\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259r kims\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131ndan m\u0259mnun deyildis\u0259, bununla bar\u0131\u015f\u0131r, yaxud da, ata evin\u0259 qay\u0131d\u0131rd\u0131. Müasir dövrd\u0259 is\u0259, v\u0259ziyy\u0259t bir az f\u0259rqlidir. G\u0259linl\u0259r ata evin\u0259 yox, kiminl\u0259s\u0259 harasa qaç\u0131rlar. Sözsüz ki, burada sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259nin d\u0259 t\u0259siri var. Bir t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n, insan\u0131n ünsiyy\u0259t qurmaq fürs\u0259ti v\u0259 imkan\u0131 daha da çoxal\u0131r. \u0130st\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z evd\u0259 o qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131, o n\u0259vazi\u015fi görm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259, onu ba\u015fqa insanlarda axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Kiminl\u0259s\u0259 sosial-\u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 ünsiyy\u0259t qurur v\u0259 bu n\u0259vazi\u015fi az da, olsa onda görürs\u0259, real h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259 ideal h\u0259yat\u0131 aras\u0131nda seçim ed\u0259nd\u0259, qaçma\u011f\u0131 üstün tutur”.<\/p>\n

\"\"Psixoloq qeyd etdi ki, ad\u0259t\u0259n, sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259ki ünsiyy\u0259t aldad\u0131c\u0131 olur: “Çünki, \u0259ks\u0259r vaxt insana el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, \u0259n ideal v\u0259 \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 tapaca\u011f\u0131 insan m\u0259hz sosial-\u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131 insand\u0131r. Bir az illuziya xarakterli olur, h\u0259r k\u0259s orda özünü m\u0259l\u0259k kimi, mük\u0259mm\u0259l insan kimi t\u0259qdim etm\u0259yi bacar\u0131r.  B\u0259z\u0259n g\u0259linl\u0259rin qaçmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olan hans\u0131sa ki\u015fil\u0259r, o\u011flanlar da, özl\u0259rini sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 m\u0259hz el\u0259 t\u0259qdim edirl\u0259r v\u0259 bu da, g\u0259linl\u0259rin qaçmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b ola bilir”.<\/p>\n

O.Oruc dedi ki, müasir dövrd\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131, kütl\u0259vi informasiya vasit\u0259l\u0259rinin d\u0259 t\u0259siri var: “Y\u0259qin ki, Az\u0259rbaycanda ail\u0259sind\u0259n m\u0259mnun olmayan, evd\u0259n qaçma\u011f\u0131 planlayan g\u0259linl\u0259r kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259rdir. Lakin, onlar ictimai q\u0131na\u011fa, hans\u0131sa ad\u0259t-\u0259n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rimiz\u0259 v\u0259 s. gör\u0259 bu add\u0131m\u0131 atm\u0131rlar. Amma, sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259, yaxud informasiya vasit\u0259sind\u0259 e\u015fid\u0259nd\u0259 ki, kims\u0259 bel\u0259 bir add\u0131m at\u0131b. D\u0259rhal h\u0259min insan dü\u015fünür ki, ç\u0131x\u0131\u015f yollar\u0131ndan biri budur v\u0259 bu add\u0131m\u0131 atmaq olar. Bel\u0259likl\u0259 d\u0259, bu q\u0259rar\u0131n verilm\u0259sin\u0259 v\u0259 kütl\u0259vil\u0259\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r d\u0259 ail\u0259sini t\u0259rk ed\u0259n, qaçan olub. Sad\u0259c\u0259, bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 kütl\u0259vil\u0259\u015fm\u0259diyi, insanlara toplu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 çatmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 üçün, onunla eyni v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 olan g\u0259linl\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259, bu m\u0259lumat çatmay\u0131b. Bel\u0259 ki,  bu da onlar üçün, t\u0259krarlanacaq bir v\u0259rdi\u015f\u0259 çevrilm\u0259yib. Amma, müasir dövr informasiya dövrü oldu\u011fu üçün, h\u0259r m\u0259lumat sür\u0259tl\u0259 yay\u0131l\u0131r, h\u0259r k\u0259s bundan m\u0259lumatl\u0131 olur. B\u0259zil\u0259ri is\u0259, bu informasiyan\u0131 özü üçün, bir davran\u0131\u015f nümun\u0259si olaraq görür. “\u018fn yax\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259 gördüyüm qaçan g\u0259lin edib, m\u0259n d\u0259 el\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259m” dü\u015fünc\u0259si il\u0259, bu add\u0131m\u0131 at\u0131rlar”.<\/p>\n

Sosioloq Cavid \u0130mamo\u011flu<\/strong> is\u0259 bildirdi ki, 9 milyondan çox \u0259halisi olan ölk\u0259d\u0259 bir v\u0259 ya bir neç\u0259 n\u0259f\u0259r bunu edirs\u0259, bu, Az\u0259rbaycan ail\u0259l\u0259rinin ümumi xarakteristikas\u0131 ola bilm\u0259z:
\n“Sosial qanunauy\u011funluqlara zidd olan b\u0259zi davran\u0131\u015flar var ki, onlar\u0131n kökünd\u0259 h\u0259min insanlar\u0131n psixi durumu rol oynay\u0131r. D\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r sistemi yerind\u0259 olmayan iki insan\u0131n bunu etm\u0259si mümkündür. Amma ümumilikd\u0259, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n modernizasiyaya Az\u0259rbaycan ail\u0259si haz\u0131r deyil. Modern ça\u011f\u0131r\u0131\u015flardan biri d\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rdir ki, bir çox hallarda insanlar bu modern ça\u011f\u0131r\u0131\u015flara uy\u011fun bacar\u0131q s\u0259rgil\u0259mirl\u0259r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, h\u0259r hans\u0131 ail\u0259li bir xan\u0131m “Facebook”a daxil olursa, bilm\u0259lidir ki, burada onunla ünsiyy\u0259t qurma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015fan bir s\u0131ra \u0259ks cinsin nümay\u0259nd\u0259l\u0259ri olacaq. Hans\u0131 ki, xan\u0131m adi halda h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rl\u0259 heç cür\u0259 ünsiyy\u0259t\u0259 gir\u0259 bilm\u0259zdi. Amma sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259r vasit\u0259sil\u0259 bu daha asan olur. Ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 bacar\u0131qs\u0131z xan\u0131mlar bel\u0259 hallarda prosesi idar\u0259 ed\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r v\u0259 bir çox hallarda \u015firnikl\u0259\u015fdirici t\u0259klifl\u0259r\u0259 aldan\u0131rlar”.<\/p>\n

\"\"Sosioloqun sözl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259, Avropa v\u0259 Q\u0259rbd\u0259 insanlar\u0131n sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259si limitlidir v\u0259 onlar realda tan\u0131d\u0131qlar\u0131 adamlarla dostluq edirl\u0259r: “Realda tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rl\u0259 ünsiyy\u0259t h\u0259r bir halda riskli ola bil\u0259r. Qad\u0131nlar üçün bu risk daha çox olur. Evdar qad\u0131n\u0131n sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259y\u0259 daxil olmas\u0131 daha çox bacar\u0131q t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Çünki evdar xan\u0131mlar bir çox hallarda c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 ged\u0259n b\u0259zi ünsiyy\u0259t modell\u0259rind\u0259n x\u0259b\u0259rsiz olurlar. “Facebook”da qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin sevgi v\u0259 ya hans\u0131sa mara\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ciddi q\u0259bul edirl\u0259r v\u0259 dü\u015fünürl\u0259r ki, onunla ünsiyy\u0259t\u0259 olan h\u0259min b\u0259y onu h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n sevir. \u018fg\u0259r onunla qaçsa xo\u015fb\u0259xt g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yi olacaq. Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259 üz\u0259rind\u0259n kiminl\u0259s\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olmaq v\u0259 h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xs\u0259 gör\u0259 öz ail\u0259ni at\u0131b, ba\u015fqas\u0131 il\u0259 getm\u0259k sosial bacar\u0131qs\u0131zl\u0131qd\u0131r. Çünki insan ail\u0259 quraca\u011f\u0131 insanla real ünsiyy\u0259td\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bizd\u0259 is\u0259 bel\u0259 olur ki, sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olur, orada raz\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u0259lib qaç\u0131rlar. Bunun özü f\u0259rdin psixoloji durumunun adekvat olmama\u011f\u0131ndan ir\u0259li g\u0259lir. Bu cür mövzulara h\u0259ssas yana\u015fmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r”.<\/p>\n

C.\u0130mamo\u011flu onu da qeyd etdi ki, \u0259g\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r ail\u0259daxili münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 uy\u011funsuzluq görürl\u0259s\u0259, bunu k\u0259nar insanlarla ünsiyy\u0259t qurmaqla yox, psixoloqlarla söhb\u0259t ed\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259ll etm\u0259lidirl\u0259r: “Xan\u0131m\u0131n \u0259traf\u0131nda \u0259ri, u\u015faqlar\u0131 var v\u0259 vaxt\u0131n\u0131 onlara s\u0259rf etm\u0259lidir. Nec\u0259 ola bil\u0259r ki, xan\u0131m tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir adama da vaxt ay\u0131rs\u0131n. Buradan görünür ki, ail\u0259daxili funksionall\u0131q pozulub, münasib\u0259tl\u0259r sistemi yerind\u0259 deyil. \u018fr-arvad aras\u0131nda partnyorluq münasib\u0259tl\u0259ri yoxdur, bir-birl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 ünsiyy\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131n\u0131 öd\u0259y\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r. Ona gör\u0259 bunlar\u0131 k\u0259narda axtarma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. H\u0259min ail\u0259l\u0259r psixoloqlara müraci\u0259t etsinl\u0259r, pe\u015f\u0259karlarla söhb\u0259t apars\u0131nlar. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 onlar hans\u0131sa konsultasiya vasit\u0259sil\u0259 h\u0259yatlar\u0131nda d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r ed\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r”.<\/p>\n

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Mehriban Zeynalova: “Daxili t\u0259nhal\u0131q hissin\u0259 qap\u0131lanlar sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259ni özl\u0259ri üçün h\u0259yat t\u0259rzin\u0259 çevirirl\u0259r” Orxan Oruc: ““\u018fn yax\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259 gördüyüm qaçan g\u0259lin edib, m\u0259n d\u0259 el\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259m” dü\u015fünc\u0259si il\u0259, bu add\u0131m\u0131…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-59007","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/59007","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=59007"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/59007\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=59007"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=59007"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=59007"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}