{"id":50446,"date":"2017-09-21T19:09:07","date_gmt":"2017-09-21T15:09:07","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=50446","title":{"rendered":"U\u015faq intihar\u0131, yoxsa?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Psixoloq Ayt\u0259n A\u011fayeva: “\u018fg\u0259r ana v\u0259 ata u\u015fa\u011fa kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r vaxt ay\u0131rm\u0131rsa, diqq\u0259t göst\u0259rmirs\u0259, bu u\u015faq kimis\u0259 yams\u0131lamal\u0131, öz sosial rolunu tapmal\u0131d\u0131r”<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\n“Evin p\u0259nc\u0259r\u0259sin\u0259 d\u0259mir ç\u0259rçiv\u0259 vurdurdum. S\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 o\u011flumun cizgi filml\u0259rinin q\u0259hr\u0259manlar\u0131n\u0131n etdiyi t\u0259hlük\u0259li h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259ri etm\u0259y\u0259 c\u0259hdl\u0259ri oldu. O\u011flum cizgi film q\u0259hr\u0259manlar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rini yams\u0131lay\u0131r. Özünü yüks\u0259k m\u0259rt\u0259b\u0259li binan\u0131n balkonundan atma\u011fa c\u0259hd edirdi. Deyirdi ki, m\u0259n d\u0259 “Betman” kimi uçacam. H\u0259tta deyirdi ki, ata, m\u0259n bunu bacararam” – bu sözl\u0259ri biziml\u0259 söhb\u0259tind\u0259 valideyn Vüqar b\u0259y bildirdi.<\/p>\n

\u018fslind\u0259 övladlar\u0131n\u0131n bu kimi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259ri il\u0259 rastla\u015fan valideynl\u0259r az deyil. Tez-tez m\u0259tbuatda v\u0259 günd\u0259lik h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zda u\u015faqlar\u0131n hündürm\u0259rt\u0259b\u0259li binalardan, balkonlardan y\u0131x\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 e\u015fidirik. B\u0259z\u0259n bunu u\u015faq intiharlar\u0131 adland\u0131r\u0131rlar, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 diqq\u0259tsizlik s\u0259b\u0259bind\u0259n y\u0131x\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 deyirl\u0259r. \u018fslind\u0259 nec\u0259dir? Bu u\u015faq intiharlar\u0131d\u0131rm\u0131, yoxsa y\u0131x\u0131lma? Bu kimi hadis\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 cizgi filml\u0259rinin rolu n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259dir?<\/p>\n

Mövzuyla ba\u011fl\u0131 “Üç nöqt\u0259”y\u0259 aç\u0131qlama ver\u0259n psixoloq Ayt\u0259n A\u011fayeva bildirdi ki, insan\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131 bir neç\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 bölünür: “1 ya\u015fad\u0259k ça\u011fal\u0131q dövrü,  1-3 ya\u015f aras\u0131 körp\u0259lik, 3-6 ya\u015f m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259q\u0259d\u0259r dövr, 7-11(12) ya\u015f ibtidai sinif dövrü, 12 ya\u015fdan sonra is\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259lik dövrü. Ara\u015fd\u0131rmalara gör\u0259, ilkin intihar fikirl\u0259ri 10-12 ya\u015f dövrün\u0259, ibtidai sinif dövründ\u0259n yeniyetm\u0259lik dövrün\u0259 keç\u0259n bir vaxta t\u0259sadüf edir. Yeniyetm\u0259lik dövründ\u0259 insan orqanizmind\u0259 çox böyük hormonal v\u0259 fizioloji d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r olur. \u0130ntihar fikirl\u0259ri bu d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259rl\u0259 birba\u015fa \u0259laq\u0259lidir. Burda sosial v\u0259 ail\u0259d\u0259 olan v\u0259ziyy\u0259ti n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. 11 ya\u015fa  q\u0259d\u0259r olan m\u0259kt\u0259blil\u0259r intihar haqq\u0131nda olan fikirl\u0259rini dil\u0259 g\u0259tir\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Lakin bunun çox zaman s\u0259b\u0259bi ail\u0259 daxili probleml\u0259rdir.  Bu zaman u\u015faq özün\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 daha çox diqq\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Yaxud ail\u0259d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r aras\u0131nda olan probleml\u0259ri, öz problemi il\u0259 qatmaq ist\u0259yir. Bu, f\u0259dakar övladlara aiddir. El\u0259 övladlar var ki, valideynl\u0259rini manipulyasiya etm\u0259k üçün intihar fikirl\u0259rini dil\u0259 g\u0259tirirl\u0259r”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloqun sözl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259, azya\u015fl\u0131 u\u015faqlar\u0131n bu cür h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tini intihar adland\u0131rmaq düzgün olmaz: “\u0130ntihar dü\u015fünc\u0259l\u0259ri u\u015faqlarda daha çox m\u0259kt\u0259b dövrü ba\u015flayandan sonra formala\u015f\u0131r. V\u0259 haradasa mü\u0259yy\u0259n q\u0259d\u0259r a\u011f\u0131llar\u0131na g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r. Lakin onlar\u0131n emosional sferas\u0131 onlara bu add\u0131m\u0131 atma\u011fa imkan verm\u0259z. Art\u0131q bir q\u0259d\u0259r böyüdükd\u0259n sonra, hardasa 13-14 ya\u015flar\u0131na çatd\u0131qda u\u015faq mü\u0259yy\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r\u0259 gör\u0259 bu add\u0131m\u0131 ata bil\u0259r. Bu ya\u015fda art\u0131q onlar yeniyetm\u0259 say\u0131l\u0131r. Dünya praktikas\u0131nda çox nadir rast g\u0259lin\u0259n hald\u0131r ki, 11 ya\u015f\u0131na çatmam\u0131\u015f u\u015faq intihar h\u0259ddin\u0259 g\u0259tirib çatd\u0131r\u0131ls\u0131n”.<\/p>\n

A.A\u011fayeva qeyd etdi ki, \u0259g\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n analiz qabiliyy\u0259ti güclü deyils\u0259, o özünü cizgi film q\u0259hr\u0259man\u0131na ox\u015fatma\u011fa ba\u015flayacaq: “Ümumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, u\u015faqlar \u0259traflar\u0131nda olan sevdikl\u0259ri, ox\u015famaq ist\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259ri yams\u0131lay\u0131rlar. Bu onlar\u0131n sosial v\u0259 psixi formala\u015fmas\u0131 üçün çox böyük rol oynay\u0131r. Misal üçün, dörd ya\u015fl\u0131 bir q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259z\u0259 bac\u0131s\u0131 yaxud qarda\u015f\u0131 anadan olubsa, kukla il\u0259 oynayaraq öz analar\u0131n\u0131 yams\u0131lay\u0131rlar. Yaxud o\u011flanlar u\u015faq ya\u015flar\u0131nda atalar\u0131na yaxud ba\u015fqa \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r\u0259 bax\u0131b özl\u0259rini ma\u015f\u0131n sür\u0259n kimi apar\u0131rlar v\u0259 ya polis-polis oynay\u0131rlar. Bunlar\u0131n \u0259slind\u0259 imitasiya funksiyas\u0131 ondan ibar\u0259tdir ki, u\u015faq özünün sosial rolunu yax\u015f\u0131 qavras\u0131n. Dü\u015fünc\u0259 qabiliyy\u0259ti bir q\u0259d\u0259r z\u0259if olan v\u0259 diqq\u0259td\u0259n k\u0259nar qalm\u0131\u015f u\u015faqlar çox vaxt \u0259trafdak\u0131lar\u0131 deyil, baxd\u0131qlar\u0131 cizgi filml\u0259rind\u0259 olan q\u0259hr\u0259manlar\u0131 yams\u0131lama\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Ham\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bildiyi “Karlson” cizgi filmi var ki, h\u0259min o q\u0259hr\u0259man\u0131n arxas\u0131nda qanadlar\u0131 var, hans\u0131 ki, onun vasit\u0259sil\u0259 uçur. Rusiyada bel\u0259 bir hadis\u0259 ba\u015f vermi\u015fdi. Bel\u0259 ki, be\u015f ya\u015fl\u0131 u\u015faq özünü Karlson hiss etmi\u015f v\u0259 balkondan uçmaq ist\u0259mi\u015fdi. V\u0259 bunun üçün ç\u0259tird\u0259n istifad\u0259 etmi\u015fdi. O kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r hündürd\u0259n hoppanm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 itirmi\u015fdi. B\u0259s bu biz\u0259 n\u0259d\u0259n x\u0259b\u0259r verir? Bu o dem\u0259kdir ki, u\u015faq diqq\u0259t m\u0259rk\u0259zind\u0259n k\u0259narda qalm\u0131\u015fd\u0131. Hans\u0131sa add\u0131mlar\u0131 atmaq u\u015faqdan çox böyük resurslar t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Eyni zamanda, h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir cizgi filminin q\u0259hr\u0259man\u0131n\u0131 yams\u0131lamaq da. \u018fg\u0259r \u0259traf\u0131nda kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r resurs yoxdursa, h\u0259min resurslar\u0131 cizgi filml\u0259rind\u0259n götür\u0259c\u0259k. \u018fg\u0259r ana v\u0259 ata u\u015fa\u011fa kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r vaxt ay\u0131rm\u0131rsa, diqq\u0259t göst\u0259rmirs\u0259, bu u\u015faq kimis\u0259 yams\u0131lamal\u0131, öz sosial rolunu tapmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bel\u0259 ki, u\u015faq özünü \u0259trafda deyil, hans\u0131sa bir cizgi filmind\u0259 tap\u0131r.  Biz buna intihar dey\u0259 bilm\u0259rik. Çünki intihar çox a\u011f\u0131r v\u0259 d\u0259rin m\u0259na k\u0259sb edir. \u0130ntihar h\u0259dd\u0259n art\u0131q ciddi bir q\u0259rar t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Müzakir\u0259 mövzusu olan azya\u015fl\u0131 u\u015faqlar\u0131n is\u0259, q\u0259rarverm\u0259 qabiliyy\u0259ti h\u0259l\u0259 yeti\u015fm\u0259yib. Burda daha çox valideynl\u0259r\u0259 yükl\u0259nm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, onlar övladlar\u0131na daha çox vaxt ay\u0131rs\u0131nlar. V\u0259 h\u0259tta cizgi filml\u0259rin\u0259 baxanda bel\u0259, mütl\u0259q maraqlanmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, u\u015faq daha çox n\u0259y\u0259 meyllidir. H\u0259min cizgi filmind\u0259 aqressiya, \u015fidd\u0259t varm\u0131, yoxsa daha çox fantastik hadisl\u0259r var? \u018fg\u0259r varsa, onun qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 mü\u0259yy\u0259n d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bir d\u0259f\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 bir valideyn müraci\u0259t etmi\u015fdi. Övlad\u0131 “Batman” cizgi filmind\u0259n çox ruhlan\u0131b, belin\u0259 pla\u015f tax\u0131b, d\u0259smal\u0131 is\u0259 boynuna sar\u0131b özünü Betman kimi hiss edir v\u0259 onun h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rini yams\u0131lama\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Anas\u0131 dedi ki, u\u015faq heç n\u0259d\u0259n qorxmadan v\u0259 ç\u0259kinm\u0259d\u0259n h\u0259r yer\u0259 ç\u0131x\u0131r v\u0259 ordan tullan\u0131r. Valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n bir gün balkondan a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 dü\u015f\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yind\u0259n qorxurdu. V\u0259 m\u0259n u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n valideynin\u0259 sual verdim ki, u\u015faq bel\u0259 ed\u0259nd\u0259 siz h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 ona deyirsiz ki, olmaz, ehtiyatl\u0131 ol! B\u0259s niy\u0259 olmaz? Bu sual\u0131n cavab\u0131n\u0131 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131za ba\u015fa sal\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131zm\u0131? Biz u\u015fa\u011fa olmaz deyirik, amma u\u015faq niy\u0259sini ba\u015fa dü\u015fmür. U\u015faqla mü\u0259yy\u0259n q\u0259d\u0259r söhb\u0259t apard\u0131q v\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b-n\u0259tic\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259rini izah etdik. Mü\u0259yy\u0259n müdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra valideyni dedi ki, art\u0131q o\u011flan çox ehtiyatla davranma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131b. Y\u0259ni, evd\u0259 mü\u0259yy\u0259n yerl\u0259r var ki, ora ç\u0131x\u0131r, amma el\u0259 yerl\u0259r var ki, art\u0131q ora ç\u0131xm\u0131r. V\u0259 sonradan u\u015faqdan soru\u015fanda ki, s\u0259n niy\u0259 h\u0259min yerl\u0259r\u0259 daha ç\u0131xm\u0131rsan? U\u015faq biz\u0259 mü\u0259yy\u0259n q\u0259d\u0259r arqument g\u0259tirdi. Çünki, art\u0131q s\u0259b\u0259bini anlam\u0131\u015fd\u0131.<\/p>\n

Bir valideyn dörd ya\u015fl\u0131 q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 g\u0259tirmi\u015fdi. O qeyd etdi ki, u\u015faq evd\u0259 qazanlar\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na keçirib, qa\u015f\u0131qla ç\u0131rpma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Bir q\u0259d\u0259r ara\u015fd\u0131rma apard\u0131\u011f\u0131m zaman m\u0259lum oldu ki, ana u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n iki ya\u015f\u0131 olanda televizorda  “Ma\u015fa v\u0259 Medved”i qoyurmu\u015f, u\u015faq buna bax\u0131r, ana is\u0259 öz i\u015fl\u0259rinin arxas\u0131nca gedirmi\u015f. U\u015faq yaln\u0131z yem\u0259k vaxt\u0131 televizordan ayr\u0131l\u0131r, bütün günü cizgi filmin\u0259 bax\u0131rm\u0131\u015f. Xat\u0131rlad\u0131m ki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n iki ya\u015f\u0131ndan üç ya\u015f\u0131nad\u0259k h\u0259r günü bel\u0259 keçib. V\u0259 bu dövr u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n psixi funksiyalar\u0131n\u0131n \u0259n ç\u0131l\u011f\u0131n inki\u015faf ed\u0259c\u0259yi dövr say\u0131l\u0131r. \u018ftrafda mühit yoxdur dey\u0259, o cizgi filmini mühit kimi q\u0259bul edib. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, özünü Ma\u015fa q\u0259hr\u0259man\u0131na b\u0259nz\u0259tm\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 onun  h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rini yams\u0131lama\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131b. Hans\u0131sa bir seriyada Ma\u015fan\u0131n qazan\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na keçirib diqq\u0259t ç\u0259kdiyini görüb, bu h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259ri yams\u0131lay\u0131b. Çünki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n yams\u0131lamaq üçün ba\u015fqa nümun\u0259si yoxdur. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r yax\u015f\u0131 inki\u015faf etm\u0259si üçün mühit yoxdur. Burada  söhb\u0259t bir ail\u0259nin faci\u0259sind\u0259n, bir anan\u0131n faci\u0259sind\u0259n gedir. Burdan görünür ki, ana öz övlad\u0131n\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r laqeyd yana\u015f\u0131b”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq sonda bildirdi ki, \u0259sas söhb\u0259t valideynin m\u0259suliyy\u0259tsizliyind\u0259n, diqq\u0259tsizliyind\u0259n, bigan\u0259liyind\u0259n gedir: “U\u015faq öz-özün\u0259 böyüy\u0259c\u0259k bir k\u0259s deyil, ona mütl\u0259q qay\u011f\u0131, diqq\u0259t laz\u0131md\u0131r. Buna ilkin olaraq iki \u015f\u0259xs cavabdehdir, ata v\u0259 ana. \u018ffsuslar olsun ki, bu iki insandan birinin diqq\u0259ti bir faiz bel\u0259 azalanda, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bu hiss olunur. Ona gör\u0259 d\u0259, valideynl\u0259r  u\u015faqlar\u0131n böyüdülm\u0259sind\u0259 v\u0259 inki\u015faf\u0131nda xüsusil\u0259, diqq\u0259tli olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar”. <\/p>\n

\nKönül \u018fhm\u0259dova<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Psixoloq Ayt\u0259n A\u011fayeva: “\u018fg\u0259r ana v\u0259 ata u\u015fa\u011fa kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r vaxt ay\u0131rm\u0131rsa, diqq\u0259t göst\u0259rmirs\u0259, bu u\u015faq kimis\u0259 yams\u0131lamal\u0131, öz sosial rolunu tapmal\u0131d\u0131r” “Evin p\u0259nc\u0259r\u0259sin\u0259 d\u0259mir ç\u0259rçiv\u0259 vurdurdum. S\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 o\u011flumun…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-50446","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50446","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=50446"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50446\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=50446"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=50446"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=50446"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}