{"id":242548,"date":"2026-04-27T10:41:57","date_gmt":"2026-04-27T06:41:57","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=242548","title":{"rendered":"Qad\u0131nlar ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n n\u0259 ist\u0259yir? \u2013"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ya\u015f\u0131ndan, t\u0259crüb\u0259sind\u0259n v\u0259 münasib\u0259t növünd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259sas gözl\u0259ntil\u0259ri olduqca ox\u015far olaraq qal\u0131r. V\u0259 onlar sad\u0259c\u0259 romantika v\u0259 ya "q\u0131\u011f\u0131lc\u0131m"dan daha d\u0259rin\u0259 gedir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az Psychology Today-\u0259 istinad\u0259n bildirir ki, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 axtard\u0131qlar\u0131, ümumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 dostluqda axtard\u0131qlar\u0131ndan çox f\u0259rql\u0259nmir. Bu m\u0259ntiqlidir, çünki h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir sa\u011flam münasib\u0259t fundamental prinsipl\u0259r üz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulur: hörm\u0259t, etibar v\u0259 emosional yetkinlik.<\/p>\n

Eyni zamanda, romantik münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 ba\u015fqa bir aspekt ortaya ç\u0131x\u0131r: yax\u0131nl\u0131q v\u0259 partnyorlar aras\u0131nda "canl\u0131" emosional q\u0131\u011f\u0131lc\u0131m\u0131 qorumaq bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131. Qad\u0131nlar ki\u015fid\u0259n n\u0259yin bahas\u0131na olursa olsun h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q "ki\u015filik", güc v\u0259 ya q\u0259hr\u0259manl\u0131q nümayi\u015f etdirm\u0259sini gözl\u0259mirl\u0259r. Bunun \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, onlar özl\u0259rini b\u0259rab\u0259r gör\u0259n, onlara dürüst yana\u015fan v\u0259 rol oynamadan v\u0259 stereotipl\u0259r qoymadan münasib\u0259t qurma\u011fa haz\u0131r olan bir partnyor ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. <\/p>\n

\u018fsas m\u0259qamlar<\/strong>
\nSa\u011flam münasib\u0259tl\u0259ri formala\u015fd\u0131ran üç \u0259sas keyfiyy\u0259t d\u0259sti var:
\nM\u0259n\u0259vi dürüstlük (h\u0259yatdak\u0131 bütün ki\u015fil\u0259r üçün)
\nMünasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 h\u0259ssasl\u0131q (dostlar v\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015flar üçün)
\nYax\u0131nl\u0131q v\u0259 d\u0259rinlik (romantik münasib\u0259tl\u0259r üçün)
\nM\u0259n\u0259vi dürüstlük<\/strong>
\nBu, heç bir münasib\u0259tin u\u011fursuz olmas\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259m\u0259lidir.
\nHörm\u0259t. Ya h\u0259r \u015fey, ya da heç n\u0259. Bir insan özünü alçald\u0131lm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 ya d\u0259y\u0259rsiz hiss edirs\u0259, münasib\u0259tl\u0259r ad\u0259t\u0259n tez bitir. H\u0259tta münaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 hörm\u0259t sabit qalmal\u0131d\u0131r.
\nAç\u0131q ünsiyy\u0259t. Müt\u0259madi v\u0259 dürüst ünsiyy\u0259t sa\u011flam münasib\u0259tin t\u0259m\u0259lidir. Bu, n\u0259zak\u0259tli, lakin birba\u015fa olmal\u0131d\u0131r.
\nDürüstlük. Onsuz etibar yaratmaq mümkün deyil. \u015eübh\u0259l\u0259r yarand\u0131qda münasib\u0259tl\u0259r pisl\u0259\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r.
\nEtibarl\u0131l\u0131q. Onlar münasib\u0259tl\u0259rin inki\u015faf etm\u0259sin\u0259 v\u0259 d\u0259rinl\u0259\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 imkan verir.
\nÖz h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259t. S\u0259hvl\u0259ri etiraf etm\u0259k ist\u0259yi olmadan yetkin münasib\u0259tl\u0259r mümkün deyil; \u0259ks halda, emosional \u0259laq\u0259ni m\u0259hv ed\u0259n "günah oyunu" ba\u015flay\u0131r.
\nMünasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 h\u0259ssasl\u0131q<\/strong>
\nBu, ki\u015finin emosiyalar\u0131, d\u0259st\u0259yi v\u0259 insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 nec\u0259 idar\u0259 etm\u0259si il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Qad\u0131nlar xeyirxahl\u0131q, s\u0259bir, anlay\u0131\u015f, empatiya v\u0259 \u015f\u0259fq\u0259t gözl\u0259yirl\u0259r. H\u0259r hans\u0131 bir münasib\u0259td\u0259 dig\u0259r insan\u0131n hissl\u0259rini n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq vacibdir. T\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f\u0131n rolu yaln\u0131z i\u015ftirak etm\u0259k deyil, h\u0259m d\u0259 s\u0259mimi qay\u011f\u0131 göst\u0259rm\u0259kdir.
\nMünasib\u0259td\u0259 dostluq. T\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f olmaq h\u0259m d\u0259 dost olmaq, ba\u015fqalar\u0131na sanki yax\u0131n olduqlar\u0131 kimi q\u0259bul v\u0259 sakitlikl\u0259 yana\u015fmaq dem\u0259kdir.
\nEmosional yetkinlik. Bir az oynaql\u0131q yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r, amma ciddi v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yetkin davran\u0131\u015f t\u0259l\u0259b olunur. Güc anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n \u0259v\u0259zini vermir.
\nD\u0259st\u0259k. Bu h\u0259m emosional, h\u0259m d\u0259 praktik olmal\u0131d\u0131r: dinl\u0259m\u0259k, köm\u0259k etm\u0259k v\u0259 ev i\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259n tutmu\u015f maliyy\u0259 v\u0259 u\u015faq böyütm\u0259y\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r vacib q\u0259rarlarda i\u015ftirak etm\u0259k.
\nT\u0259crüb\u0259nin t\u0259sdiql\u0259nm\u0259si. Qad\u0131nlar t\u0259crüb\u0259l\u0259rinin qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirilm\u0259m\u0259sini ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. \u018fg\u0259r onlar ayr\u0131-seçkilik v\u0259 ya ç\u0259tinlikl\u0259r haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rlarsa, onlar\u0131 sor\u011fulamamaq vacibdir.<\/p>\n

Ki\u015fil\u0259r h\u0259m evd\u0259, h\u0259m d\u0259 i\u015fd\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259rli gender rollar\u0131n\u0131n aradan qald\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131nda i\u015ftirak ed\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r v\u0259 etm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. B\u0259rab\u0259r \u015f\u0259rait v\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r gözl\u0259ntil\u0259r h\u0259r ikisi üçün münasib\u0259tl\u0259ri sa\u011flam edir.
\nRomantikada yax\u0131nl\u0131q v\u0259 d\u0259rinlik<\/strong>
\nRomantik münasib\u0259tl\u0259r ba\u015fqa bir t\u0259b\u0259q\u0259 \u0259lav\u0259 edir – emosional v\u0259 fiziki yax\u0131nl\u0131q.
\nPayla\u015f\u0131lan mac\u0259ralar v\u0259 böyüm\u0259. Qad\u0131nlar yeni t\u0259crüb\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259, intellektual söhb\u0259tl\u0259rl\u0259 v\u0259 bir-birinin bax\u0131\u015flar\u0131na meydan oxumaq imkan\u0131 il\u0259 dolu canl\u0131 münasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r verirl\u0259r.
\nT\u0259r\u0259fda\u015fl\u0131q. Zamanla dostluq v\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015fl\u0131q, xüsus\u0259n d\u0259 h\u0259yat d\u0259yi\u015fdikd\u0259 v\u0259 u\u015faqlar, i\u015f, yor\u011funluq v\u0259 ya x\u0259st\u0259lik \u0259lav\u0259 edildikd\u0259, münasib\u0259tl\u0259ri bir yerd\u0259 saxlayan yap\u0131\u015fqan hal\u0131na g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n

Sevgi sad\u0259c\u0259 sözl\u0259r deyil, bir h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t kimidir. "S\u0259ni sevir\u0259m" dem\u0259k vacibdir, amma onun h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 nec\u0259 t\u0259zahür etm\u0259si daha da vacibdir. Bunu dem\u0259k ç\u0259tin olsa da, sevgi yen\u0259 d\u0259 davran\u0131\u015fda görünm\u0259lidir.<\/p>\n

Seks v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131l\u0131q. \u018fsas m\u0259qamlardan biri odur ki, qad\u0131nlar seksin bir \u015fey üçün "öd\u0259ni\u015f" kimi q\u0259bul edilm\u0259sini ist\u0259mirl\u0259r. Bu m\u0259qal\u0259d\u0259 bir neç\u0259 vacib prinsip müzakir\u0259 olunur, y\u0259ni yax\u015f\u0131 \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259ri seks üçün "mübadil\u0259"y\u0259 çevirm\u0259m\u0259k, yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 mükafat kimi gözl\u0259m\u0259m\u0259k v\u0259 seksin bir \u0259m\u0259liyyat deyil, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 ist\u0259k v\u0259 etibar olmas\u0131. Yüks\u0259k keyfiyy\u0259tli yax\u0131nl\u0131q eyni ssenarinin rutin v\u0259 ya t\u0259krarlanmas\u0131 deyil, yaln\u0131z özünün deyil, t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f\u0131n ortaq ara\u015fd\u0131rmas\u0131 v\u0259 m\u0259mnuniyy\u0259tidir. N\u0259\u015fr h\u0259mçinin qad\u0131nlar\u0131n ki\u015fil\u0259r q\u0259d\u0259r cinsi \u0259laq\u0259d\u0259n zövq ald\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 vur\u011fulay\u0131r, \u0259g\u0259r onlar\u0131n düzgün t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f\u0131 varsa v\u0259 sa\u011flamd\u0131rlarsa.<\/p>\n

Bütün münasib\u0259tl\u0259r üçün vacibdir<\/strong>
\nQad\u0131nlar ki\u015fil\u0259ri mütt\u0259fiq kimi görm\u0259k ist\u0259yirl\u0259r, bu da onlar\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 u\u011furlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259m\u0259k, güclü t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rin\u0259 hörm\u0259t etm\u0259k, münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259rlik v\u0259 müqayis\u0259 v\u0259 mane\u0259l\u0259r olmadan d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259rini tan\u0131maq dem\u0259kdir.
\nV\u0259 \u0259n \u0259sas\u0131, romantik münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 qad\u0131nlar ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 t\u0259xmin\u0259n eyni \u015feyl\u0259ri ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Yegan\u0259 f\u0259rq bu ehtiyaclar\u0131n nec\u0259 ifad\u0259 olunmas\u0131d\u0131r.
\n"Qad\u0131nlar\u0131n gözl\u0259ntil\u0259rinin mür\u0259kk\u0259bliyi" haqq\u0131nda mifl\u0259r\u0259 baxmayaraq, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n mük\u0259mm\u0259l bir t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f deyil, yetkin bir t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f axtard\u0131\u011f\u0131 do\u011frudur. Hörm\u0259t ed\u0259n, dürüst, emosional c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n sabit, d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259yici v\u0259 oyun v\u0259 manipulyasiya olmadan h\u0259qiqi yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa haz\u0131r olan biri. V\u0259 q\u0131saca des\u0259k, qad\u0131nlar "mük\u0259mm\u0259l ki\u015fi" deyil, h\u0259m sevgini, h\u0259m d\u0259 hörm\u0259ti \u0259hat\u0259 ed\u0259n sa\u011flam, dürüst v\u0259 canl\u0131 münasib\u0259tl\u0259r ist\u0259yirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ya\u015f\u0131ndan, t\u0259crüb\u0259sind\u0259n v\u0259 münasib\u0259t növünd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259sas gözl\u0259ntil\u0259ri olduqca ox\u015far olaraq qal\u0131r. V\u0259 onlar sad\u0259c\u0259 romantika v\u0259 ya "q\u0131\u011f\u0131lc\u0131m"dan daha d\u0259rin\u0259 gedir. Ucnoqta.az Psychology Today-\u0259 istinad\u0259n bildirir ki,…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-242548","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/242548","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=242548"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/242548\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=242548"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=242548"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=242548"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}