{"id":238865,"date":"2026-02-17T08:00:36","date_gmt":"2026-02-17T04:00:36","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=238865","title":{"rendered":"Sevgi il\u0259 nifr\u0259t aras\u0131nda bir add\u0131m -Bir vaxtlar sevdiyimiz insanlara d\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fck…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sevgi v\u0259 nifr\u0259t çox vaxt \u0259ks hissl\u0259r hesab olunur. Lakin psixologiya iddia edir ki, bu hissl\u0259r birlikd\u0259 mövcud ola bil\u0259r v\u0259 h\u0259tta tez bir zamanda bir-birini \u0259v\u0259z ed\u0259 bil\u0259r.
\nH\u0259m sevgi, h\u0259m d\u0259 nifr\u0259t ba\u015fqa bir insana t\u0259sadüf\u0259n deyil, bizim üçün kim olduqlar\u0131na gör\u0259 yön\u0259ldilir. Sevdiyimiz zaman h\u0259min insan\u0131n rifah\u0131n\u0131, böyüm\u0259sini v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyini arzulay\u0131r\u0131q. Nifr\u0259t etdiyimiz zaman onun \u0259ziyy\u0259t ç\u0259km\u0259sini v\u0259 ya d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259sini ist\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259rik. F\u0259rq göz qaba\u011f\u0131ndad\u0131r, lakin h\u0259r iki hissin alt\u0131nda yatan mexanizmin ortaq bir t\u0259m\u0259li var – intensiv emosional i\u015ftirak. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az Psychology Today -\u0259 istinad\u0259n x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, buna gör\u0259 d\u0259 bu hisl\u0259r tez-tez yax\u0131n münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yaran\u0131r v\u0259 laqeyd münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 dem\u0259k olar ki, heç vaxt yaranm\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Nifr\u0259t m\u0259nb\u0259yi kimi qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131qs\u0131z sevgi
\nSevgi v\u0259 nifr\u0259tin birlikd\u0259 mövcud oldu\u011fu \u0259n sad\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131qs\u0131z sevgidir. \u018fg\u0259r insan özünü sevgiy\u0259 layiq hesab edirs\u0259, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n olmamas\u0131 onun özün\u0259 hörm\u0259tin\u0259 ciddi \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r ver\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Bel\u0259 hallarda, psixika tez-tez öz daxilind\u0259 deyil, ba\u015fqa yerd\u0259 izahat axtar\u0131r: qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 olmayan insan "qüsurlu" v\u0259 ya "s\u0259hv" kimi q\u0259bul edilm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. M\u0259nfi emosiyalar xaric\u0259 yön\u0259lir v\u0259 sevgi t\u0259dric\u0259n q\u0131c\u0131qlanma v\u0259 nifr\u0259tl\u0259 birl\u0259\u015fir.<\/p>\n

Sevgi azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0259hdudla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r
\nH\u0259tta qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 v\u0259 sa\u011flam münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 ziddiyy\u0259tli hissl\u0259r mümkündür. S\u0259b\u0259b mü\u0259yy\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsi azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131n itirilm\u0259sind\u0259dir.
\n\u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n yax\u0131n münasib\u0259t güz\u0259\u015ft\u0259 getm\u0259yi n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutur; insan dig\u0259rinin ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131, planlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259li v\u0259 öz ist\u0259kl\u0259rin\u0259 t\u0259slim olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Muxtariyy\u0259t v\u0259 müst\u0259qilliyin yüks\u0259k qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirildiyi m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 bu, qurban v\u0259 ya m\u0259cburiyy\u0259t kimi q\u0259bul edil\u0259 bil\u0259r.
\n\u0130nsan öz t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 itirm\u0259sinin s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi görm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131qda, q\u0259z\u0259b yaran\u0131r v\u0259 bu, h\u0259tta sevginin yan\u0131nda bel\u0259 nifr\u0259t\u0259 çevril\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Qorxu m\u0259nb\u0259yi kimi z\u0259iflik
\nYax\u0131n münasib\u0259tl\u0259r aç\u0131ql\u0131q t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Kiminl\u0259s\u0259 h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n birlikd\u0259 olmaq üçün insan dig\u0259rinin z\u0259iflikl\u0259rini, qorxular\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 çat\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 görm\u0259sin\u0259 icaz\u0259 verm\u0259lidir.
\nZ\u0259iflik insan\u0131 daha az t\u0259hlük\u0259siz edir. Birinin inciy\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yinin f\u0259rqind\u0259 olmaq daxili müqavim\u0259t\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b ola bil\u0259r. Bu qorxu h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 tan\u0131nm\u0131r v\u0259 tez-tez bu z\u0259ifliyin m\u0259nb\u0259yin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 q\u0131c\u0131qlanmaya v\u0259 ya t\u0259cavüz\u0259 çevrilir.<\/p>\n

Ya\u015famal\u0131 oldu\u011fumuz qüsurlar
\nBa\u015fqa bir insan aç\u0131ld\u0131qda, onun idealdan az olan t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rini görürük: v\u0259rdi\u015fl\u0259r, xarakter xüsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri v\u0259 q\u0131c\u0131qland\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar. Bir vaxtlar \u015firin görün\u0259n \u015fey sonda yorucu v\u0259 ya q\u0259z\u0259bli ola bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Bu ara-s\u0131ra ba\u015f ver\u0259n q\u0131c\u0131qlanma partlay\u0131\u015flar\u0131 sevgini inkar etmir; onlar sad\u0259c\u0259 idealizasiyadan m\u0259hrum olan bir münasib\u0259tin reall\u0131\u011f\u0131na \u015fahidlik edirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Normal bir v\u0259ziyy\u0259t kimi ambivalensiya
\nPsixoloqlar sevgi v\u0259 nifr\u0259tin birl\u0259\u015fm\u0259sini ambivalensiya adland\u0131r\u0131rlar. Sabit münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 bu, ad\u0259t\u0259n q\u0131samüdd\u0259tli olur, y\u0259ni müsb\u0259t hissl\u0259r m\u0259nfi hissl\u0259rd\u0259n daha çoxdur. Lakin, emosiyalar\u0131n h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n r\u0259qab\u0259t apard\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 ambivalensiya daha uzun müdd\u0259t davam ed\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 insan\u0131 ç\u0259tin seçim etm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur ed\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Sevgi v\u0259 nifr\u0259t ox\u015far sah\u0259l\u0259ri aktivl\u0259\u015fdirir. Xüsusil\u0259, insulyar korteks emosiyalar\u0131n intensivliyind\u0259n m\u0259suldur, lakin onlar\u0131n müsb\u0259t v\u0259 ya m\u0259nfi olub olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 mü\u0259yy\u0259n etmir. Bu o dem\u0259kdir ki, güclü emosional oyan\u0131\u015f tez bir zamanda i\u015far\u0259ni d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259 bil\u0259r: sevgi nifr\u0259t\u0259 v\u0259 \u0259ksin\u0259 çevril\u0259 bil\u0259r. Buna gör\u0259 d\u0259 bu cür d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r tez-tez q\u0259fil v\u0259 gözl\u0259nilm\u0259d\u0259n ba\u015f verir.
\nSevgi sad\u0259 v\u0259 ya birm\u0259nal\u0131 bir hiss deyil. Bu, yax\u0131nl\u0131q, mü\u0259yy\u0259n n\u0259zar\u0259tin itirilm\u0259si, h\u0259ssasl\u0131q v\u0259 dig\u0259r insan\u0131n çat\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 q\u0259bul etm\u0259k dem\u0259kdir.
\nB\u0259z\u0259n yax\u0131n münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yaranan nifr\u0259t mütl\u0259q sevginin sonu dem\u0259k deyil. Bu, çox vaxt onun d\u0259rinliyinin yan t\u0259siridir. Bu hissl\u0259r aras\u0131ndak\u0131 inc\u0259 x\u0259tt anomaliya deyil, insan psixologiyas\u0131n\u0131n bir hiss\u0259sidir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sevgi v\u0259 nifr\u0259t çox vaxt \u0259ks hissl\u0259r hesab olunur. Lakin psixologiya iddia edir ki, bu hissl\u0259r birlikd\u0259 mövcud ola bil\u0259r v\u0259 h\u0259tta tez bir zamanda bir-birini \u0259v\u0259z ed\u0259 bil\u0259r. H\u0259m…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-238865","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/238865","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=238865"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/238865\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=238865"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=238865"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=238865"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}