{"id":229769,"date":"2025-09-02T06:40:36","date_gmt":"2025-09-02T02:40:36","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=229769","title":{"rendered":"H\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q ciddilik psixi sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011fa z\u0259r\u0259r ver\u0259 bil\u0259r"},"content":{"rendered":"

Biz stresin v\u0259 özümüz\u0259 olan t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rin tez-tez qrafikl\u0259rd\u0259n k\u0259nar oldu\u011fu bir dünyada ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q. \u0130\u015f, ail\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259ri, sosial gözl\u0259ntil\u0259r, bütün bunlar bizi “mük\u0259mm\u0259l” olma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Lakin psixoloqlar getdikc\u0259 daha çox qeyd edirl\u0259r ki, h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q ciddilik psixi sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011fa z\u0259r\u0259r ver\u0259 bil\u0259r, bizi ba\u015fqalar\u0131ndan t\u0259crid ed\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 h\u0259tta münasib\u0259tl\u0259ri pisl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, Harvard Q\u0259zetinin yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131na gör\u0259, özünüzü daha asan q\u0259bul etm\u0259yi v\u0259 sözd\u0259 özünü istehzal\u0131 yumorla m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olma\u011f\u0131 öyr\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r. V\u0259 \u0259n \u0259sas\u0131, bu, özünü daim alçaltmaq v\u0259 ya "öz hesab\u0131na" zarafat etm\u0259k deyil, \u0259ksin\u0259, t\u0259b\u0259ssüml\u0259 öz qüsurlar\u0131n\u0131 etiraf etm\u0259k üçün sa\u011flam bir qabiliyy\u0259tdir.<\/p>\n

Özün\u0259 ironiya v\u0259 ya özünü alçaltma
\nBurada bir x\u0259tt ç\u0259km\u0259k vacibdir.
\nÖzün\u0259 ironiya sa\u011flam özünüd\u0259rketm\u0259nin, situasiyaya f\u0259rqli bucaqdan baxmaq, g\u0259rginliyi aradan qald\u0131rmaq v\u0259 özün\u0259 “canl\u0131 insan” olmaq hüququ verm\u0259k bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259zahürüdür.<\/p>\n

Özünü alçaltma özünün ba\u015fqa bir ifrat, daimi devalvasiyas\u0131, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 özün\u0259 hörm\u0259tini gizl\u0259tm\u0259k v\u0259 ya zarafat yolu il\u0259 r\u0259\u011fb\u0259t qazanmaq c\u0259hdidir.
\nZarafatdan sonra özünüzü daha yax\u015f\u0131 v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt hiss edirsinizs\u0259, bu düzgün istiqam\u0259tdir. Özünüzü daha da pis hiss edirsinizs\u0259 v\u0259 ya ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n yönd\u0259msiz reaksiya verdiyini görürsünüzs\u0259, bunun h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n yumor v\u0259 ya özünüz\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 gizli t\u0259nqid formas\u0131 oldu\u011funu dü\u015fünm\u0259lisiniz.
\nÖzünüz\u0259 bir az sad\u0259lik verin<\/strong>
\nStressin azald\u0131lmas\u0131. Yumor "xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik hormonlar\u0131n\u0131" aktivl\u0259\u015fdirir v\u0259 emosional g\u0259rginliyi aradan qald\u0131rma\u011fa köm\u0259k edir.
\nDaha yax\u015f\u0131 ünsiyy\u0259t. Qüsursuz görünm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxmayan insanlar daha aç\u0131q v\u0259 ünsiyy\u0259td\u0259 daha xo\u015f görünürl\u0259r.
\n\u018flaq\u0259l\u0259rin inki\u015faf\u0131. Özün\u0259 ironiya münaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259ri daha asan h\u0259ll etm\u0259y\u0259, ümumi dil tapma\u011fa v\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131na bizim d\u0259 z\u0259if t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rimizin oldu\u011funu göst\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 köm\u0259k edir v\u0259 bu normald\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Güv\u0259n siqnal\u0131. S\u0259hvl\u0259rini t\u0259b\u0259ssüml\u0259 etiraf ed\u0259 bil\u0259n insan, yetkin v\u0259 özünü t\u0259min ed\u0259n t\u0259sir ba\u011f\u0131\u015flay\u0131r.
\nBir zarafat t\u0259hlük\u0259li ola bil\u0259c\u0259yi zaman<\/strong>
\nH\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q özün\u0259 ironiya özünü d\u0259y\u0259rsizl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259 v\u0259rdi\u015fin\u0259 çevril\u0259 bil\u0259r. “M\u0259n heç n\u0259 ed\u0259 bilmir\u0259m” v\u0259 ya “M\u0259n h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 h\u0259r \u015feyi it\u0259 verir\u0259m” kimi daimi \u015f\u0259rhl\u0259r m\u0259nfi daxili dialoq yarada v\u0259 özün\u0259 hörm\u0259t\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r ver\u0259 bil\u0259r.
\nÖz zarafatlar\u0131n\u0131za münasib\u0259tinizi yenid\u0259n n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n keçirm\u0259yiniz üçün \u0259lam\u0259tl\u0259r:
\nÖzünüz haqq\u0131nda h\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259n daha çox zarafat edirsiniz;
\nBel\u0259 “zarafatlardan” sonra özünüzü k\u0259d\u0259rli v\u0259 ya günahkar hiss edirsiniz;
\n\u018ftraf\u0131n\u0131zdak\u0131 insanlar gülü\u015fl\u0259 deyil, simpatiya il\u0259 reaksiya verirl\u0259r.
\nM\u0259d\u0259ni f\u0259rql\u0259r<\/strong>
\nMüxt\u0259lif m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yumora yana\u015fma f\u0259rqlidir.
\nQ\u0259rbin f\u0259rdiyy\u0259tçi m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 özün\u0259 ironiya yax\u0131nl\u0131q göst\u0259rm\u0259k v\u0259 “özümüzd\u0259n biri olmaq” üçün m\u0259\u015fhur bir üsuldur.
\nKollektivist m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yax\u0131n qohumlar v\u0259 ya dostlar aras\u0131nda oldu\u011fu kimi dostcas\u0131na “ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131 \u0259l\u0259 salmaq” daha çox yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131r.
\nSa\u011flam özün\u0259 ironiya<\/strong>
\n\u0130nsana deyil, v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 diqq\u0259t yetirin. Öz d\u0259y\u0259rinizd\u0259n deyil, “M\u0259n h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 h\u0259r \u015feyi m\u0259hv edir\u0259m” kimi “M\u0259n olmasam, ba\u015fqa kim s\u0259n\u0259dl\u0259rin üstün\u0259 q\u0259hv\u0259 tök\u0259rdi?” kimi zarafatlar edin.
\nG\u0259rginliyi aradan qald\u0131rmaq üçün yumordan istifad\u0259 edin. Münaqi\u015f\u0259li söhb\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yüngül zarafat bar\u0131\u015fmaq üçün “körpü” ola bil\u0259r.
\nReaksiyaya diqq\u0259t yetirin. \u018fg\u0259r sözl\u0259riniz gülü\u015f v\u0259 rahatlama yarad\u0131rsa, do\u011fru yoldas\u0131n\u0131z. \u018fg\u0259r h\u0259msöhb\u0259tl\u0259r utan\u0131rlarsa, sözl\u0259ri yenid\u0259n n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n keçirin.
\nÖzünüzü daha az ciddi q\u0259bul etm\u0259k qeyri-ciddilikl\u0259 deyil, yetkin müdriklikl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Söhb\u0259t z\u0259if t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rinizi qorxmadan görm\u0259k, adi anlarda sevinc tapmaq v\u0259 insanlarla daha isti münasib\u0259tl\u0259r qurmaq bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan gedir.<\/p>\n

Bel\u0259likl\u0259, növb\u0259ti d\u0259f\u0259 bir \u015fey plana uy\u011fun getm\u0259dikd\u0259, gülüms\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 dem\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131n: "Yax\u015f\u0131, heç olmasa bu, dostlar\u0131n\u0131z üçün yax\u015f\u0131 bir hekay\u0259 olacaq." V\u0259 bunun n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r asan olaca\u011f\u0131na t\u0259\u0259ccübl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259ksiniz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Biz stresin v\u0259 özümüz\u0259 olan t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rin tez-tez qrafikl\u0259rd\u0259n k\u0259nar oldu\u011fu bir dünyada ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q. \u0130\u015f, ail\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259ri, sosial gözl\u0259ntil\u0259r, bütün bunlar bizi “mük\u0259mm\u0259l” olma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Lakin psixoloqlar getdikc\u0259 daha çox qeyd…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[100],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-229769","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-diger"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/229769","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=229769"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/229769\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=229769"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=229769"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=229769"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}