{"id":224852,"date":"2025-06-05T08:00:45","date_gmt":"2025-06-05T04:00:45","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=224852","title":{"rendered":"Ki\u015fi q\u0131sqanm\u0131rsa dem\u0259li sevmir?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q dem\u0259k olar ki, h\u0259r cütlük üçün tan\u0131\u015f bir hissdir. B\u0259zil\u0259ri üçün bu, sevginin "\u015firin" sübutu, dig\u0259rl\u0259ri üçün is\u0259 inams\u0131zl\u0131q v\u0259 ya h\u0259tta z\u0259h\u0259rli davran\u0131\u015f \u0259lam\u0259tidir.
\nB\u0259s h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n olmamas\u0131 avtomatik bigan\u0259liyin \u0259lam\u0259tidir, yoxsa q\u0131sqanc olmayan adam\u0131n sad\u0259c\u0259 sevm\u0259diyini dey\u0259 bil\u0259rik. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Lyudmila Çrnova izah edir: bu, h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q sad\u0259l\u0259\u015fdirilmi\u015f v\u0259 h\u0259tta t\u0259hlük\u0259li bir bax\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. \u018fslind\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey daha d\u0259rin v\u0259 mür\u0259kk\u0259bdir.<\/p>\n

Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q sevgi deyil: bunlar iki f\u0259rqli hadis\u0259dir<\/strong><\/p>\n

Çox vaxt biz n\u0259zar\u0259ti, emosional qeyri-sabitliyi v\u0259 ya h\u0259tta sahibl\u0259nm\u0259yi sevgi il\u0259 qar\u0131\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r\u0131q. Ancaq sa\u011flam bir münasib\u0259td\u0259 bu, daimi \u015fübh\u0259l\u0259r, telefon yoxlamalar\u0131, “kiml\u0259 q\u0259hv\u0259 içdiyiniz” v\u0259 ya “i\u015fd\u0259 n\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z” haqq\u0131nda sor\u011fu-suallarla sinonim olmamal\u0131d\u0131r.
\nFakt: q\u0131sqancl\u0131q çox vaxt sevginin sübutu deyil, öz etibars\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n proyeksiyas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q olmadan sevgi nec\u0259 görünür<\/strong>
\nKi\u015fi q\u0131sqancl\u0131q göst\u0259r\u0259 bilm\u0259z, amma eyni zamanda:
\nQay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f v\u0259 diqq\u0259tli olmaq;
\nsiz\u0259 emosional d\u0259st\u0259k;
\nh\u0259y\u0259can\u0131n\u0131zla maraqlanmaq;
\nsizinl\u0259 etibarl\u0131 söhb\u0259tl\u0259r qurmaq;
\nqucaqlamaq, öpm\u0259k, inc\u0259lik göst\u0259rm\u0259k;
\n\u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131za, dostlar\u0131n\u0131za, hobbil\u0259riniz\u0259 hörm\u0259t etm\u0259k.<\/p>\n

Lyudmila Çernova izah edir ki, \u0259g\u0259r bir ki\u015fi siz\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t etmirs\u0259, yaz\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131za mane olmursa, ancaq emosional v\u0259ziyy\u0259tiniz\u0259 s\u0259mimiyy\u0259tl\u0259 diqq\u0259t yetirirs\u0259, sizinl\u0259 vaxt keçirirs\u0259, qay\u011f\u0131 göst\u0259rirs\u0259 – bu, heç d\u0259 bigan\u0259lik deyil.<\/p>\n

Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n olmamas\u0131 h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n problem olduqda<\/strong>
\n\u018fg\u0259r ki\u015fi:
\nh\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131zla heç maraqlanm\u0131r;
\nemosional v\u0259ziyy\u0259tiniz\u0259 diqq\u0259t yetirmir;
\nhissl\u0259riniz v\u0259 ya probleml\u0259riniz haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fmaqdan ç\u0259kinir;
\nümumi planlar qurmur;
\ngünd\u0259lik h\u0259yatda v\u0259 ya ictimai h\u0259yatda varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131za m\u0259h\u0259l qoymur
\n– onda “sa\u011flam inam”dan yox, bigan\u0259likd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fmaq olar. Bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259, q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n olmamas\u0131 emosional i\u015ftirak\u0131n olmamas\u0131n\u0131n \u0259lam\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n yaln\u0131z biridir.
\nN\u0259zar\u0259t sevginin sübutu deyil<\/p>\n

N\u0259zar\u0259tin (mesajlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 oxumaq, \u015f\u0259xsi m\u0259kan\u0131n\u0131za yenid\u0259n baxmaq, dostlarla ünsiyy\u0259t\u0259 qada\u011fa qoymaq) psixoloji zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n bir formas\u0131 oldu\u011funu ba\u015fa dü\u015fm\u0259k vacibdir. Bu sevgi haqq\u0131nda deyil – itirm\u0259k qorxusu, özün\u0259 \u015fübh\u0259, keçmi\u015f travmalar haqq\u0131ndad\u0131r.
\nSev\u0259n partnyor sizi “m\u0259nims\u0259m\u0259y\u0259” çal\u0131\u015fm\u0131r, çünki o, sizi b\u0259rab\u0259r v\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259rli insan hesab edir.<\/p>\n

Ki\u015fi davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n iki qütbü<\/strong>
\nN\u0259zar\u0259t ed\u0259n, lakin emosional c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n soyuq insan – q\u0131sqanc ola bil\u0259r, amma \u0259sl qay\u011f\u0131 göst\u0259rmir;
\n\u0130dar\u0259 olunmayan, lakin sev\u0259n t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f – o, sizi sor\u011fu-sual etm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k, ancaq ç\u0259tin bir günd\u0259n sonra sizi qucaqlayacaq.<\/p>\n

Yetkin münasib\u0259tl\u0259rin gücü n\u0259dir<\/strong>
\nYetkin münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 üstünlük t\u0259\u015fkil edir:
\ngüv\u0259n;
\n\u015f\u0259xsi s\u0259rh\u0259dl\u0259r\u0259 hörm\u0259t;
\n\u0259laq\u0259l\u0259r üçün ortaq m\u0259suliyy\u0259t;
\nt\u0259hlük\u0259sizlik: "yanl\u0131\u015f bax\u0131\u015f" üçün c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131zdan qorxmadan ola bildiyiniz zaman.
\nQ\u0131sqancl\u0131q sevginin sübutu deyil. Laqeydlik h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 sülh\u0259 aid deyil. Sevgi etimad, qay\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 yax\u0131n olmaq arzusudur, tam n\u0259zar\u0259t haqq\u0131nda deyil. Ki\u015finiz q\u0131sqanc deyils\u0259, sevm\u0259diyi q\u0259na\u0259tin\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259sm\u0259yin. Sevginin dig\u0259r \u0259lam\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 diqq\u0259t yetirin: onun h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259ri, sözl\u0259ri, d\u0259st\u0259yi, dinl\u0259m\u0259k ist\u0259yi v\u0259 ç\u0259tin anlarda orada olmaq.
\n\u018fg\u0259r partnyorunuzun davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259kba\u015f\u0131na ba\u015fa dü\u015f\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yinizi hiss edirsinizs\u0259, psixoloqla \u0259laq\u0259 saxlamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z – bu z\u0259iflik deyil, özünüz\u0259 v\u0259 duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131za qay\u011f\u0131 göst\u0259rm\u0259kdir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q dem\u0259k olar ki, h\u0259r cütlük üçün tan\u0131\u015f bir hissdir. B\u0259zil\u0259ri üçün bu, sevginin "\u015firin" sübutu, dig\u0259rl\u0259ri üçün is\u0259 inams\u0131zl\u0131q v\u0259 ya h\u0259tta z\u0259h\u0259rli davran\u0131\u015f \u0259lam\u0259tidir. B\u0259s h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n olmamas\u0131…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-224852","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/224852","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=224852"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/224852\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=224852"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=224852"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=224852"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}