{"id":224142,"date":"2025-05-26T09:12:38","date_gmt":"2025-05-26T05:12:38","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=224142","title":{"rendered":"Qad\u0131nlar niy\u0259 aldad\u0131r? \u2013"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sosial normalar v\u0259 stereotipl\u0259rin ki\u015fil\u0259ri x\u0259yan\u0259tkarsatq\u0131n kimi göst\u0259rm\u0259sin\u0259 baxmayaraq, statistika ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rinin faizinin 50:50 oldu\u011funu göst\u0259rir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Lyudmila Çernova qad\u0131nlar\u0131n niy\u0259 aldatma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131, ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n aldatmalar\u0131n\u0131n f\u0259rqli olub-olmamas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 fikirl\u0259rini v\u0259 t\u0259crüb\u0259sini abun\u0259çil\u0259ri il\u0259 bölü\u015füb.<\/p>\n

Aralar\u0131nda el\u0259 d\u0259 böyük f\u0259rq olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 görüns\u0259 d\u0259, \u0259slind\u0259 var. \u018fsas\u0259n, qad\u0131nlar münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli emosional soyuqluq hiss etdikd\u0259 aldatma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. Onun kim oldu\u011fu v\u0259 niy\u0259 sevildiyi bar\u0259d\u0259 heç bir hiss v\u0259 anlay\u0131\u015f olmad\u0131qda. Bu inams\u0131zl\u0131q f\u0131r\u0131ldaqç\u0131l\u0131\u011fa s\u0259b\u0259b ola bil\u0259r.
\nGörünür, h\u0259ll yolu sad\u0259dir: orta\u011f\u0131n n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r göz\u0259l v\u0259 a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 oldu\u011funu v\u0259 onu n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r sevdiyini h\u0259r gün xat\u0131rlatmas\u0131 kifay\u0259tdir. Onun xo\u015fb\u0259xt oldu\u011funu t\u0259krarlasa, bu kifay\u0259t ed\u0259rdi.<\/p>\n

Dig\u0259r s\u0259b\u0259b müasir qad\u0131nlar\u0131n daha çox m\u0259suliyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131mas\u0131 ola bil\u0259r. Feminist bax\u0131\u015flar v\u0259 maliyy\u0259 müst\u0259qilliyi say\u0259sind\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n güz\u0259\u015ft\u0259 getm\u0259 ehtimal\u0131 azd\u0131r. \u0130ndi onlar\u0131n münasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 çat\u0131\u015fmayan emosional v\u0259 cinsi h\u0259zzi axtarmaq üçün daha çox imkanlar\u0131 var.<\/p>\n

Bir qad\u0131n a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 özün\u0259 hörm\u0259tl\u0259 mübariz\u0259 apard\u0131qda, aldatmaq onun \u0259laq\u0259d\u0259n k\u0259narda arzuolunanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259sdiqi kimidir. Romantikalar onun \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r verir, amma bitdikd\u0259 o, özünü etibars\u0131z v\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259rsiz hiss ed\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Maraql\u0131 bir mü\u015fahid\u0259 budur ki, ki\u015fi x\u0259yan\u0259tin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b \u0259laq\u0259nin cinsi aspekti, qad\u0131nlar is\u0259 emosional probleml\u0259rini h\u0259ll etm\u0259k üçün edirl\u0259r. Emosional bir \u0259laq\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259tind\u0259, cinsiyy\u0259t ümumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 t\u0259nliyin bir hiss\u0259si deyil. Münaqi\u015f\u0259nin fiziki v\u0259 ya emosional olmas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq, bir qad\u0131n söhb\u0259t\u0259, empatiyaya, hörm\u0259t\u0259, s\u0259daq\u0259t\u0259, p\u0259r\u0259sti\u015fkarl\u0131\u011fa, d\u0259st\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 ya daimi t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015fla münasib\u0259td\u0259 olmayan ba\u015fqa bir \u0259laq\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011fu üçün aldada bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

B\u0259zil\u0259ri dey\u0259 bil\u0259r ki, emosional aldatma mövcud deyil, lakin bir çox \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259r "emosional torpaqda" böyüyür.
\nB\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar idealla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ki\u015fi il\u0259 münasib\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. Onda ist\u0259dikl\u0259rini görürl\u0259r. V\u0259 zaman keçdikc\u0259 illüziya yox olduqda, onu m\u0259yusluq, a\u011fr\u0131 v\u0259 puç ümidl\u0259r \u0259v\u0259z edir. Bir qad\u0131n münasib\u0259td\u0259 özünü t\u0259nha hiss etdikd\u0259, h\u0259tta ail\u0259d\u0259 u\u015faq olsa bel\u0259, ba\u015fqa yerd\u0259 emosional d\u0259st\u0259k axtara bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Bel\u0259likl\u0259, qad\u0131n\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tinin \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bi emosional soyuqluq hissi v\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015fdan emosional d\u0259st\u0259yin olmamas\u0131d\u0131r. Münasib\u0259tl\u0259rinizi yax\u015f\u0131la\u015fd\u0131rmaq üçün ilk add\u0131m öz ist\u0259kl\u0259riniz v\u0259 ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131z bar\u0259d\u0259 bir-birinizl\u0259 dürüst olmaqd\u0131r. Hissl\u0259rinizi v\u0259 gözl\u0259ntil\u0259rinizi n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r aç\u0131q v\u0259 dürüst müzakir\u0259 ed\u0259 bils\u0259niz, köhn\u0259 hissl\u0259rinizi geri qaytarmaq \u015fans\u0131n\u0131z bir o q\u0259d\u0259r çox olar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sosial normalar v\u0259 stereotipl\u0259rin ki\u015fil\u0259ri x\u0259yan\u0259tkarsatq\u0131n kimi göst\u0259rm\u0259sin\u0259 baxmayaraq, statistika ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rinin faizinin 50:50 oldu\u011funu göst\u0259rir. Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Lyudmila Çernova qad\u0131nlar\u0131n niy\u0259 aldatma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131, ki\u015fi…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[100],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-224142","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-diger"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/224142","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=224142"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/224142\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=224142"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=224142"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=224142"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}