{"id":221431,"date":"2025-04-11T07:51:12","date_gmt":"2025-04-11T03:51:12","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=221431","title":{"rendered":"M\u0259nfi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 alma\u011f\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"

B\u0259zi s\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259r gözümüzü açmadan h\u0259r \u015fey ba\u015flay\u0131r, içimizd\u0259ki bir s\u0259s n\u0259inki p\u0131ç\u0131lday\u0131r, h\u0259m d\u0259 q\u0131\u015fq\u0131r\u0131r: “Yen\u0259 u\u011fursuz olacaqsan.”, “Bu gün d\u0259 s\u0259ni heç kim görm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k.”, “Yen\u0259 çatmayacaqsan”. Neqativ fikirl\u0259r bel\u0259 g\u0259lir.
\nOnlar s\u0259ssiz deyill\u0259r, lakin tez-tez yüks\u0259k s\u0259sl\u0259 v\u0259 israrl\u0131d\u0131rlar. Biz refleks olaraq onlar\u0131 susdurma\u011fa v\u0259 a\u011fl\u0131m\u0131zdan ç\u0131xarma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131q. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki. psixoloq Eren Boz mövzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 m\u0259lumat verib. M\u0259nfi dü\u015fünc\u0259l\u0259r dü\u015fm\u0259nimiz deyil, sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq köm\u0259y\u0259 ça\u011f\u0131ra bilm\u0259y\u0259n emosiyalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n s\u0259sidir.<\/p>\n

Dü\u015fünc\u0259 m\u0259nfidirs\u0259, bu onun m\u0259nas\u0131z olmas\u0131 dem\u0259k deyil. “M\u0259n qeyri-kafiy\u0259m” dey\u0259n bir a\u011f\u0131l, \u0259slind\u0259, “Çox s\u0259y göst\u0259rm\u0259yim\u0259 baxmayaraq, d\u0259y\u0259r verilm\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n yoruldum” dem\u0259k ola bil\u0259r. Yaxud da “M\u0259n u\u011fursuz olaca\u011fam” dü\u015fünc\u0259sinin arxas\u0131nda “U\u011fursuzluq çox a\u011fr\u0131d\u0131r, çünki özümü bununla mü\u0259yy\u0259n edir\u0259m” yat\u0131r. M\u0259nfi dü\u015fünc\u0259l\u0259rimiz çox vaxt emosiyalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n zehni s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259 \u0259ks olunmas\u0131d\u0131r. Onlar b\u0259z\u0259n natamam v\u0259 ya t\u0259hrif olunmu\u015f formada ifad\u0259 tapa bils\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259, mahiyy\u0259tc\u0259 f\u0259rdin daxili dünyas\u0131ndan yüks\u0259l\u0259n yard\u0131m ça\u011f\u0131r\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259msil edirl\u0259r. Buna gör\u0259 d\u0259 m\u0259nfi dü\u015fünc\u0259 il\u0259 mübariz\u0259 aparmaqdansa, onu anlama\u011fa çal\u0131\u015fmaq çox vacibdir.<\/p>\n

Özümüz\u0259 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131 suallar\u0131 verm\u0259k çox faydal\u0131 olard\u0131: Bu dü\u015fünc\u0259nin alt\u0131nda hans\u0131 emosiya dayana bil\u0259r? M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, qorxu, d\u0259y\u0259rsizlik, t\u0259nhal\u0131q? Bu fikir m\u0259n\u0259 n\u0259 dem\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015fa bil\u0259r? Bu fikri ba\u015fqas\u0131 des\u0259ydi, m\u0259n nec\u0259 cavab ver\u0259rdim? M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, “M\u0259n heç vaxt heç kim\u0259 kifay\u0259t ed\u0259 bilm\u0259r\u0259m” fikrini e\u015fid\u0259n bir insan özün\u0259 bu suallar\u0131 verdikd\u0259, o, bu sual\u0131 anlaya bil\u0259r: “B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 bu dü\u015fünc\u0259nin alt\u0131nda yatan s\u0259b\u0259b “Sevilm\u0259k üçün h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 güclü görünm\u0259liy\u0259m” inanc\u0131d\u0131r. Bu suallar biz\u0259 fikirl\u0259rl\u0259 mübariz\u0259 aparmaqdansa, onlarla m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olma\u011fa imkan verir. V\u0259 bu, psixi sa\u011flaml\u0131q üçün \u0259n güclü add\u0131mlardan biridir.<\/p>\n

''Fikirl\u0259riniz düzgün olmaq m\u0259cburiyy\u0259tind\u0259 deyil. M\u0259nfi bir fikir do\u011fru olmaya bil\u0259r, amma onun siz\u0259 hiss etdirdiyi yol reald\u0131r. Odur ki, onlar\u0131 d\u0259rhal susdurma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015fmaq yox, bir müdd\u0259t yan\u0131n\u0131zda saxlamaq, yax\u0131ndan tan\u0131maq v\u0259 sonra buraxmaq faydal\u0131 olard\u0131. "Özünüz\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 mehriban olun." Bu cüml\u0259 çox e\u015fidildiyi üçün m\u0259nas\u0131n\u0131 itirmi\u015f ola bil\u0259r, amma \u0259slind\u0259 çox sad\u0259 ekvivalenti var:
\nÖzünüzl\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman sevdiyiniz birin\u0259 r\u0259ftar ed\u0259rmi\u015f kimi davran\u0131n. Özünüz\u0259 deyirsiniz: "Yen\u0259 onu qar\u0131\u015fd\u0131rd\u0131n!" "Ç\u0259tin idi, ç\u0259tin anlar ya\u015fad\u0131n v\u0259 bu normald\u0131r." dem\u0259k \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, "Ç\u0259tin idi v\u0259 ç\u0259tin anlar ya\u015fad\u0131n." Özünü tan\u0131d\u0131qca v\u0259 duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 e\u015fitdikc\u0259 fikirl\u0259rin yum\u015falma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. E\u015fitdiyimiz s\u0259rt v\u0259 t\u0259nqidi daxili s\u0259s yerini anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 daxili dialoqa verir.''<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

B\u0259zi s\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259r gözümüzü açmadan h\u0259r \u015fey ba\u015flay\u0131r, içimizd\u0259ki bir s\u0259s n\u0259inki p\u0131ç\u0131lday\u0131r, h\u0259m d\u0259 q\u0131\u015fq\u0131r\u0131r: “Yen\u0259 u\u011fursuz olacaqsan.”, “Bu gün d\u0259 s\u0259ni heç kim görm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k.”, “Yen\u0259 çatmayacaqsan”. Neqativ fikirl\u0259r bel\u0259…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-221431","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221431","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=221431"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221431\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=221431"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=221431"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=221431"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}