{"id":220920,"date":"2025-04-03T06:52:33","date_gmt":"2025-04-03T02:52:33","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=220920","title":{"rendered":"T\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f\u0131n\u0131z davaml\u0131 olaraq g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Görünü\u015fün manipulyasiyas\u0131” münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 tez-tez ba\u015f ver\u0259n devalvasiyan\u0131n gizli yollar\u0131ndan biridir. Özünüz üçün deyil, ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n standartlar\u0131na cavab verm\u0259k üçün ya\u015fama\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Lyudmila Çernova deyir ki, bir t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f bunun sizin üçün narahatl\u0131q oldu\u011funu, "bu sizin üçün daha yax\u015f\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131" söyl\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 siz özünüz buna inanma\u011fa ba\u015flayacaqs\u0131n\u0131z, amma bu sözl\u0259r h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n sevgi haqq\u0131nda, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t haqq\u0131ndad\u0131r v\u0259 t\u0259\u0259ssüf ki, bu, z\u0259h\u0259rli bir \u0259laq\u0259nin \u0259lam\u0259tidir.<\/p>\n

Manipulyasiyan\u0131 nec\u0259 tan\u0131maq olar<\/strong>
\nKi\u015fi görünü\u015fünüzd\u0259n naraz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bil\u0259r: "Saç düzümünüzü b\u0259y\u0259nmir\u0259m", "Burada çox \u015fey var, kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r deyil", "Bunu d\u0259yi\u015f, sonra s\u0259ni sev\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m". Bu \u015f\u0259rhl\u0259rin t\u0259zyiqi alt\u0131nda qad\u0131n getdikc\u0259 özünü itirm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r v\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 raz\u0131 salma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131r. O, saç düzümünü, geyim t\u0259rzini, makiyaj\u0131n\u0131, h\u0259tta b\u0259d\u0259nini d\u0259yi\u015fir – sad\u0259c\u0259 ist\u0259diyi t\u0259sdiqi almaq üçün.<\/p>\n

Ancaq bunun qay\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 ya sevgi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fa dü\u015fm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Qad\u0131n\u0131n \u015f\u0259rhi t\u0259nqid kimi q\u0259bul edildikd\u0259, ki\u015finin \u015f\u0259rhi is\u0259 obyektiv qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259 kimi q\u0259bul edilirs\u0259, bu, art\u0131q münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259ki b\u0259rab\u0259rsizliyin t\u0259zahürüdür. Bir t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f daim çat\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlara diqq\u0259t yetirirs\u0259, bu, qay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f deyil, gücü qorumaq üçün bir yoldur.
\nNiy\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r qad\u0131nlar\u0131n görünü\u015fünü özünü t\u0259sdiql\u0259 “Manipulyasiya edir”. Davaml\u0131 olaraq sizi t\u0259nqid ed\u0259n bir t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f, özün\u0259 hörm\u0259tini art\u0131r\u0131r. Sanki deyir: “M\u0259n yara\u015f\u0131ql\u0131yam, amma s\u0259n m\u0259niml\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r deyils\u0259n, daha çox çal\u0131\u015f”.<\/p>\n

Devalvasiya. Bu, t\u0259kc\u0259 zahiri görk\u0259ml\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 deyil, h\u0259m d\u0259 sizin daxili al\u0259minizl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Davaml\u0131 olaraq sizi d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur ed\u0259n bir insan siz\u0259 oldu\u011funuz kimi d\u0259y\u0259r vermir.
\nManipulyasiya v\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t. Daimi naraz\u0131l\u0131q qad\u0131n\u0131 g\u0259rgin v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 salma\u011fa m\u0259cbur edir: “xo\u015f g\u0259lm\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n” qorxur, raz\u0131l\u0131q axtar\u0131r v\u0259 \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tini itirir.
\nGizli t\u0259cavüz. Görünü\u015fün t\u0259nqidi emosional \u0259razinizin i\u015f\u011fal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fhval\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 korlay\u0131r, özünüzd\u0259n \u015fübh\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur v\u0259 inam\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u0259lind\u0259n al\u0131r.
\nÖzünüzü nec\u0259 qorumal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.
\nB\u0259han\u0259 g\u0259tirm\u0259yin. Mü\u0259yy\u0259n bir saç düzümü v\u0259 ya geyim t\u0259rzini niy\u0259 b\u0259y\u0259ndiyinizi izah etm\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac yoxdur. Görünü\u015fünüz sizin q\u0259rar\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r.
\nS\u0259rh\u0259dl\u0259rinizi qoruyun. \u018fg\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f\u0131n\u0131z b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259diyiniz d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259rd\u0259 israr edirs\u0259, birba\u015fa olun v\u0259 bunun sizin seçiminiz oldu\u011funu v\u0259 buna hörm\u0259t etm\u0259li oldu\u011funu söyl\u0259yin.
\n\u018flaq\u0259ni t\u0259hlil edin. T\u0259nqidl\u0259r sonsuzdursa v\u0259 sizi güv\u0259nsiz hiss edirs\u0259, bu \u0259laq\u0259nin h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n siz\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik g\u0259tirdiyini dü\u015fünün.
\nÖz d\u0259y\u0259rinizi xat\u0131rlay\u0131n. Heç kimin sizi d\u0259y\u0259rsizl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259y\u0259 haqq\u0131 yoxdur. Sevgi ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n ideallar\u0131na uy\u011fun ya\u015famaq t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259ri il\u0259 deyil, q\u0259bul il\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r.
\nUnutma ki, s\u0259ni oldu\u011fun kimi q\u0259bul ed\u0259n sevgiy\u0259 layiqs\u0259n. Özünüzü qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirin v\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n "mük\u0259mm\u0259l qad\u0131n" ideyas\u0131na uy\u011funlu\u011funuz üçün deyil, unikall\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131za gör\u0259 sevildiyiniz münasib\u0259tl\u0259r qurun.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Görünü\u015fün manipulyasiyas\u0131” münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 tez-tez ba\u015f ver\u0259n devalvasiyan\u0131n gizli yollar\u0131ndan biridir. Özünüz üçün deyil, ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n standartlar\u0131na cavab verm\u0259k üçün ya\u015fama\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Lyudmila Çernova deyir ki, bir…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[97],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-220920","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maraqli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/220920","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=220920"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/220920\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=220920"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=220920"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=220920"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}