{"id":207600,"date":"2024-08-16T16:26:56","date_gmt":"2024-08-16T12:26:56","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=207600","title":{"rendered":"Valideynl\u0259r \u015f\u0259xsi probleml\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n sirl\u0259rini verm\u0259y\u0259 meyllidirl\u0259r"},"content":{"rendered":"

B\u0259z\u0259n u\u015faqlar öz sirl\u0259rini v\u0259 t\u0259crüb\u0259l\u0259rini bölü\u015f\u0259r\u0259k, valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 etibar etm\u0259k q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259lirl\u0259r. Ancaq valideynl\u0259r bu kimi hallar\u0131 sad\u0259c\u0259 u\u015faq oyunu hesab ed\u0259r\u0259k, ciddiy\u0259 almaya bil\u0259rl\u0259r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Onlar tez-tez u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n "q\u0259rib\u0259likl\u0259rini" dostlar\u0131 v\u0259 ya tan\u0131\u015flar\u0131 il\u0259 müzakir\u0259 edirl\u0259r, bunun u\u015faqlar\u0131n özl\u0259ri üçün a\u011fr\u0131l\u0131 ola bil\u0259c\u0259yini d\u0259rk etmirl\u0259r.
\nUcnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Maya Andriyaniçeva valideynl\u0259rin niy\u0259 bel\u0259 etdiyini v\u0259 bunun u\u015fa\u011fa nec\u0259 t\u0259sir ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yind\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131b.<\/p>\n

U\u015faq valideynl\u0259rd\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsi t\u0259crüb\u0259l\u0259rini v\u0259 ya hekay\u0259l\u0259rini ba\u015fqalar\u0131 il\u0259 bölü\u015fm\u0259m\u0259l\u0259rini xahi\u015f etdikd\u0259, lakin onlar bunu h\u0259r halda edirl\u0259rs\u0259, bu, u\u015fa\u011fa hissl\u0259rin\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259l qoyulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 özl\u0259rini valideynl\u0259rin gözünd\u0259 daha az \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t k\u0259sb etdiyini hiss etdir\u0259 bil\u0259r.
\nAndriyaniçeva vur\u011fulay\u0131r ki, u\u015faqlarla onlar\u0131n hiss v\u0259 ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 müzakir\u0259 etm\u0259k vacibdir ki, onlar\u0131n insanlara olan inam\u0131na x\u0259l\u0259l g\u0259lm\u0259sin.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq qeyd edir ki, valideynl\u0259rin bu cür h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259ri u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 qapanma\u011fa v\u0259 öz t\u0259crüb\u0259l\u0259rini daha az payla\u015fma\u011fa m\u0259cbur ed\u0259 bil\u0259r.
\n\u018fg\u0259r u\u015faq daima valideynl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n \u0259l\u0259 sal\u0131n\u0131rsa v\u0259 ya etiketl\u0259nirs\u0259, bu, ciddi travmaya s\u0259b\u0259b ola bil\u0259r.
\nDig\u0259r hallarda, u\u015faq sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq daha qapal\u0131 ola bil\u0259r v\u0259 ya m\u0259nfi reaksiyadan qorxaraq özü haqq\u0131nda zarafat etm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxa bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Andriyaniçeva deyir ki, valideynl\u0259rin özl\u0259ri d\u0259 u\u015faql\u0131qda ox\u015far münasib\u0259tl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fa bil\u0259rdil\u0259r ki, bu da onlar\u0131n u\u015faqlar\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n hissl\u0259rini n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq daha az yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131 v\u0259 valideynl\u0259r onun t\u0259crüb\u0259l\u0259ri haqq\u0131nda dü\u015fünmürdül\u0259r. Lakin indi c\u0259miyy\u0259t u\u015faqlara qar\u015f\u0131 daha çevik v\u0259 tolerant olub ki, bu da t\u0259hsil\u0259 yana\u015fman\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015fir.<\/p>\n

Andriyaniçeva u\u015faqla ba\u011fl\u0131 v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259ri yaln\u0131z onun yoxlu\u011funda müzakir\u0259 etm\u0259yi tövsiy\u0259 edir ki, bu bar\u0259d\u0259 onun x\u0259b\u0259ri olmas\u0131n.
\n"Valideynl\u0259r bunu pis niyy\u0259tl\u0259 deyil, sad\u0259c\u0259 m\u0259nal\u0131 bir \u015feyi xat\u0131rlamaq ist\u0259yi il\u0259 ed\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Bununla bel\u0259, m\u0259nfi n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 almaq üçün u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n fikrini n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq v\u0259 onun müzakir\u0259 edilm\u0259m\u0259k ist\u0259yin\u0259 hörm\u0259t etm\u0259k vacibdir", – dey\u0259 müt\u0259x\u0259ssis qeyd edib.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

B\u0259z\u0259n u\u015faqlar öz sirl\u0259rini v\u0259 t\u0259crüb\u0259l\u0259rini bölü\u015f\u0259r\u0259k, valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 etibar etm\u0259k q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259lirl\u0259r. Ancaq valideynl\u0259r bu kimi hallar\u0131 sad\u0259c\u0259 u\u015faq oyunu hesab ed\u0259r\u0259k, ciddiy\u0259 almaya bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Onlar tez-tez u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n "q\u0259rib\u0259likl\u0259rini" dostlar\u0131 v\u0259…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-207600","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/207600","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=207600"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/207600\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=207600"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=207600"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=207600"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}