{"id":202451,"date":"2024-05-20T06:43:47","date_gmt":"2024-05-20T02:43:47","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=202451","title":{"rendered":"U\u015faqlara bu s\u00f6zl\u0259ri s\u00f6yl\u0259m\u0259k olmaz"},"content":{"rendered":"

U\u015faq böyütm\u0259k m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fmaq laz\u0131m olan bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n psixikas\u0131 böyükl\u0259rin dü\u015fünc\u0259 v\u0259 davran\u0131\u015f t\u0259rzind\u0259n çox f\u0259rqli oldu\u011fundan, u\u015faqlarla buna uy\u011fun dan\u0131\u015fmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, ekspertl\u0259r u\u015faqlara hans\u0131 sözl\u0259ri söyl\u0259m\u0259k olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 aç\u0131qlay\u0131b.
\nG\u0259lin valideynl\u0259rin \u0259n çox etdiyi s\u0259hvl\u0259rd\u0259n biri il\u0259 ba\u015flayaq. Bir çox psixoloq u\u015faqlara “Burada heç n\u0259 sizin deyil” ifad\u0259sini söyl\u0259m\u0259m\u0259yinizl\u0259 raz\u0131la\u015f\u0131r. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, siz u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131za onun s\u0259rh\u0259dl\u0259rinin sizin üçün \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t k\u0259sb etm\u0259diyini göst\u0259rirsiniz v\u0259 o, öz növb\u0259sind\u0259, özünü t\u0259hlük\u0259siz hiss etm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k, çünki h\u0259r an sevimli \u015feyl\u0259rind\u0259n m\u0259hrum ola bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Bir u\u015faqla ünsiyy\u0259t qurark\u0259n qaç\u0131n\u0131lmas\u0131 laz\u0131m olan \u0259sas ifad\u0259l\u0259r aras\u0131nda "S\u0259n daha yax\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ed\u0259 bil\u0259rs\u0259n". Xüsusil\u0259 bu, ev tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u0259ft\u0259rl\u0259rind\u0259n v\u0259r\u0259ql\u0259ri qoparmaqla gücl\u0259ndirildikd\u0259. Yeri g\u0259lmi\u015fk\u0259n, bu sözl\u0259r n\u0259inki u\u015faqlarla münasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 x\u0259l\u0259l g\u0259tirir, onlar\u0131 böyükl\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 söyl\u0259m\u0259k olmaz. Çox vaxt biz \u0259limizd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259ni etm\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131q v\u0259 bu cür \u015f\u0259rhl\u0259r tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259k üçün s\u0259rf olunan s\u0259yi d\u0259y\u0259rsizl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Müt\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259r t\u0259kc\u0259 yuxar\u0131da qeyd olunan ifad\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259 etm\u0259yi m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t görmürl\u0259r. \u0130nsan psixologiyas\u0131n\u0131n i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259 qaydas\u0131 ondan ibar\u0259tdir ki, u\u015faqlara “z\u0131ld\u0131rma\u011f\u0131 dayand\u0131r”, “a\u011fz\u0131n\u0131 ba\u011fla”, “\u0259s\u0259bl\u0259riml\u0259 oynama” v\u0259 s. kimi sözl\u0259ri dey\u0259 bilm\u0259zs\u0259n.<\/p>\n

\u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r qeyd olunan ifad\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u0259lav\u0259 olaraq, u\u015faqlarla ünsiyy\u0259t qurark\u0259n onlar\u0131n kompleksl\u0259rin ehtiyat\u0131 v\u0259 özün\u0259 hörm\u0259ti olmayan tam hüquqlu bir f\u0259rd kimi böyüm\u0259l\u0259rini ist\u0259yirsinizs\u0259, onlardan qaç\u0131nmaq daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. Psixoloqlar a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131 sözl\u0259rd\u0259n ç\u0259kinm\u0259yi m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t görürl\u0259r:
\n“Get, h\u0259r \u015feyi özüm ed\u0259c\u0259m”.
\n"Özünü güzgüd\u0259 görmüs\u0259n?"
\n"Yaln\u0131z m\u0259nim ölümümd\u0259n sonra."
\n"Böyüy\u0259nd\u0259 ba\u015fa dü\u015f\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n"
\n"Böyüy\u0259nd\u0259 dan\u0131\u015far\u0131q."
\n"M\u0259n öl\u0259nd\u0259 ba\u015fa dü\u015f\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n."
\n"Q\u0131zlar (o\u011flanlar) özl\u0259rini bel\u0259 aparm\u0131rlar."
\n  "Siz u\u011fur qazana bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ksiniz."
\n“\u018fg\u0259r bel\u0259 davransan, s\u0259ni u\u015faq evin\u0259 gönd\u0259r\u0259r\u0259m”.
\n“\u018fg\u0259r bunu bir daha ets\u0259n, m\u0259n…”
\n"M\u0259ni m\u0259yus edirs\u0259n."
\n– S\u0259n nankor u\u015faqsan.
\n"S\u0259n köks\u0259n."<\/p>\n

Bütün bu ifad\u0259l\u0259r sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n hissl\u0259rini tapdalay\u0131r. O, c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 inteqrasiyas\u0131 bir yana qals\u0131n, evd\u0259 d\u0259 öz h\u0259qiqi özünü göst\u0259rm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxacaq. Unutmay\u0131n ki, u\u015faq sizin mülkünüz deyil, dünyan\u0131 inki\u015faf ed\u0259n v\u0259 öyr\u0259n\u0259n bir insand\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

U\u015faq böyütm\u0259k m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fmaq laz\u0131m olan bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n psixikas\u0131 böyükl\u0259rin dü\u015fünc\u0259 v\u0259 davran\u0131\u015f t\u0259rzind\u0259n çox f\u0259rqli oldu\u011fundan, u\u015faqlarla buna uy\u011fun dan\u0131\u015fmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.  Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, ekspertl\u0259r u\u015faqlara hans\u0131…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[100],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-202451","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-diger"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/202451","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=202451"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/202451\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=202451"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=202451"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=202451"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}