{"id":201215,"date":"2024-05-01T06:00:27","date_gmt":"2024-05-01T02:00:27","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=201215","title":{"rendered":"\u00d6vlad\u0131 s\u00f6y\u00fc\u015f s\u00f6y\u0259rs\u0259 valideynl\u0259r n\u0259 etm\u0259li?"},"content":{"rendered":"

U\u015faqlar\u0131n i\u015fl\u0259tdiyi nalayiq sözl\u0259r valideynl\u0259rd\u0259 narahatl\u0131q v\u0259 narahatl\u0131q yarada bil\u0259r. Bir u\u015faq bird\u0259n söyü\u015fl\u0259r i\u015fl\u0259tm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayanda, bu, tez-tez \u015foka v\u0259 ça\u015fq\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa s\u0259b\u0259b olur. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Kira Qold\u015fteyn Gazeta.Ru-ya valideynl\u0259rin bu cür v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 ekoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n nec\u0259 reaksiya ver\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yini deyib.
\n“\u0130lk add\u0131m sakit qalmaqd\u0131r. U\u015faqlar h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 inki\u015faf edir v\u0259 emosiyalar\u0131n\u0131 idar\u0259 etm\u0259yi öyr\u0259nirl\u0259r. Ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 mühakim\u0259 etm\u0259kd\u0259ns\u0259, u\u015faqla sakit dan\u0131\u015fmaq v\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 hans\u0131 sözl\u0259rin m\u0259qbul oldu\u011funu anlama\u011fa köm\u0259k etm\u0259k daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r”, – dey\u0259 o, izah edib.<\/p>\n

Psixoloqun sözl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259, u\u015faqlar\u0131n söyü\u015f söym\u0259sinin s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri müxt\u0259lif ola bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

“T\u0259qlid, \u015fifahi özünümüdafi\u0259, diqq\u0259ti c\u0259lb etm\u0259k ist\u0259yi, özünü t\u0259sdiql\u0259m\u0259. Ya\u015fl\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259q\u0259d\u0259r u\u015faqlar v\u0259 kiçik m\u0259kt\u0259blil\u0259r valideyn n\u0259zar\u0259tin\u0259 müqavim\u0259t göst\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131r, yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r h\u0259mya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda özl\u0259rini t\u0259sdiql\u0259yirl\u0259r. Müt\u0259x\u0259ssis vur\u011fulay\u0131r ki, m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259q\u0259d\u0259r ya\u015fda u\u015faqlar valideynl\u0259rin emosiyalar\u0131n\u0131 oxuyur v\u0259 konkret söz\u0259 \u015fidd\u0259tli reaksiya onun t\u0259krarlanmas\u0131na g\u0259tirib ç\u0131xara bil\u0259r ki, “valideyn gücünü s\u0131nas\u0131n”.<\/p>\n

Bu problemi h\u0259ll etm\u0259k üçün u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131za söyü\u015fl\u0259rin t\u0259hqiredici v\u0259 qeyri-etik ola bil\u0259c\u0259yini izah etm\u0259kl\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131n. V\u0259 buna gör\u0259 d\u0259 onlar\u0131 ünsiyy\u0259td\u0259 istifad\u0259 etm\u0259m\u0259k daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. Bu cür nitqin m\u0259nas\u0131 v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259ri haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fa, onun dig\u0259r insanlarla münasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 nec\u0259 t\u0259sir ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yini v\u0259 m\u0259nfi reaksiyalara s\u0259b\u0259b ola bil\u0259c\u0259yini izah ed\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz.<\/p>\n

“U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131za söyü\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259 etm\u0259d\u0259n hirs v\u0259 ya m\u0259yusluq haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fmaq kimi emosiyalar\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 etm\u0259k üçün alternativ yollar t\u0259klif edin. H\u0259m d\u0259 \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bini tapma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131n, y\u0259ni u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n bu sözl\u0259ri haradan ald\u0131\u011f\u0131na diqq\u0259t yetirin. Onlar\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259, küç\u0259d\u0259, televizorda v\u0259 ya internetd\u0259 e\u015fid\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 qaydalar t\u0259yin edin: u\u015faq n\u0259 dinl\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 baxa bil\u0259r. V\u0259 izah edin ki, \u0259d\u0259bsiz dilin b\u0259zi ifad\u0259li üsullar\u0131 niy\u0259 q\u0259buledilm\u0259zdir”, – dey\u0259 müt\u0259x\u0259ssis \u0259lav\u0259 edib.
\n“Öz nitqiniz\u0259 diqq\u0259t edin v\u0259 nalayiq sözl\u0259rd\u0259n ç\u0259kinm\u0259y\u0259 çal\u0131\u015f\u0131n. \u018fg\u0259r u\u015faq valideynl\u0259rinin nitql\u0259rin\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t etdiyini görürs\u0259, o zaman onlar\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259krarlama ehtimal\u0131 yüks\u0259kdir. Valideynl\u0259r üçün tövsiy\u0259: evd\u0259 nalayiq sözl\u0259r i\u015fl\u0259tm\u0259yin, ç\u0259tin anlar\u0131 sad\u0259 v\u0259 ayd\u0131n izah edin, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131zla sakit v\u0259 müxt\u0259lif mövzularda dan\u0131\u015f\u0131n, onlara konkret lü\u011f\u0259ti ba\u015fa dü\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 öyr\u0259din v\u0259 emosional intellektini art\u0131r\u0131n. U\u015faqlar t\u0259dric\u0259n sosial qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 \u0259laq\u0259 v\u0259 emosional t\u0259nziml\u0259m\u0259 bacar\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 öyr\u0259nirl\u0259r. Ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r s\u0259birli v\u0259 d\u0259st\u0259k olmal\u0131, övlad\u0131na ünsiyy\u0259t qaydalar\u0131n\u0131, öz hiss v\u0259 emosiyalar\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 etm\u0259 yollar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fa dü\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 köm\u0259k etm\u0259lidir”, – dey\u0259 psixoloq yekunla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131b.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

U\u015faqlar\u0131n i\u015fl\u0259tdiyi nalayiq sözl\u0259r valideynl\u0259rd\u0259 narahatl\u0131q v\u0259 narahatl\u0131q yarada bil\u0259r. Bir u\u015faq bird\u0259n söyü\u015fl\u0259r i\u015fl\u0259tm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayanda, bu, tez-tez \u015foka v\u0259 ça\u015fq\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, psixoloq Kira Qold\u015fteyn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-201215","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/201215","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=201215"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/201215\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=201215"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=201215"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=201215"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}