{"id":196970,"date":"2024-02-22T09:46:24","date_gmt":"2024-02-22T05:46:24","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=196970","title":{"rendered":"“Yeniyetm\u0259lik ya\u015f d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259 q\u0131z, ya o\u011flan f\u0259rq etmir, ham\u0131s\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc …” –"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bak\u0131n\u0131n 156 sayl\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259binin XI sinif \u015fagirdinin tör\u0259tdiyi \u0259m\u0259l bir neç\u0259 gündür, ölk\u0259 günd\u0259mind\u0259n dü\u015fmür. M\u0259lum hadis\u0259 \u0259traf\u0131nda apar\u0131lan müzakir\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bildirilir ki, m\u0259kt\u0259bli q\u0131z\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na gör\u0259 onun t\u0259hsil ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259b deyil, \u0259n ba\u015fl\u0131ca valideynl\u0259ri m\u0259suliyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 bu rakursdan baxanlar deyirl\u0259r ki, m\u0259kt\u0259b islah mü\u0259ssis\u0259si, t\u0259rbiy\u0259 m\u0259rk\u0259zi yox, t\u0259hsil mü\u0259ssis\u0259sidir v\u0259 bilik verm\u0259k funksiyas\u0131 da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r. Müasir dövrd\u0259 böyüy\u0259n u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rin t\u0259siri alt\u0131na tez dü\u015fürl\u0259r v\u0259 onlarda mobil telefonlara, internet\u0259 ifrat d\u0259r\u0259cd\u0259 alud\u0259çilik yaran\u0131r. Haz\u0131rda ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 valideyn-övlad münasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin z\u0259d\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259sinin kökünd\u0259 d\u0259 m\u0259hz bu amil dayan\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f psixoloq Gül\u0259r M\u0259mm\u0259dova da Pravda.az-a aç\u0131qlamas\u0131nda deyib ki, h\u0259r ya\u015f\u0131n özün\u0259m\u0259xsus inki\u015faf dinamikas\u0131 var:<\/p>\n

“H\u0259l\u0259 körp\u0259 ik\u0259n h\u0259r bir valideyn böyüm\u0259kd\u0259 olan övlad\u0131nda xarakter formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. Xarakterin is\u0259 xüsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri olur. Nümun\u0259vi xüsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r, ali, zehni, estetik hisl\u0259r, \u0259xlaq hisl\u0259ri – bütün bunlar mü\u0259yy\u0259n ya\u015f dön\u0259mind\u0259 u\u015faqlara ötürülür. Sad\u0259c\u0259, valideynl\u0259r bu sah\u0259d\u0259 müt\u0259x\u0259ssis olmasalar da, kort\u0259bii \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 olsa bel\u0259, nümun\u0259l\u0259r\u0259, do\u011fmal\u0131q, qohumluq, dostluq münasib\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 \u0259sas\u0259n, pisi-yax\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ay\u0131rd etm\u0259yi, daha do\u011fru-dürüst \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259ri kitab cüml\u0259si il\u0259 olmasa da, nec\u0259s\u0259 öz övladlar\u0131na a\u015f\u0131lay\u0131rlar. Yaxud valideynl\u0259rin bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 münasib\u0259tind\u0259n övladlar özl\u0259ri nümun\u0259 götürür, d\u0259rs ç\u0131xar\u0131rlar. Natamam, tam, konfliktli, nevrotik ail\u0259 mühitind\u0259 böyüy\u0259n u\u015faqlar özl\u0259rini t\u0259sdiq etm\u0259k üçün kim\u0259s\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259m\u0259k ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Kiml\u0259ris\u0259 t\u0259qlid edirl\u0259r. H\u0259ssas – yeniyetm\u0259lik ya\u015f dön\u0259mi el\u0259 bir dön\u0259mdir ki, q\u0131z, ya o\u011flan f\u0259rq etmir. Ham\u0131s\u0131 özünü "qanuni o\u011fru" kimi göst\u0259r\u0259r\u0259k seçilm\u0259k ist\u0259yir. Yaxud kims\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda hans\u0131sa s\u0259hv edibs\u0259, onu bu s\u0259hv\u0259 gör\u0259 filml\u0259rd\u0259ki kimi c\u0259zaland\u0131rma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Onlar\u0131n idrak prosesl\u0259ri tam inki\u015faf etm\u0259diyi üçün h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rinin n\u0259tic\u0259sinin n\u0259 ola bil\u0259c\u0259yini dü\u015fünmürl\u0259r. Sad\u0259c\u0259, h\u0259min an ç\u0131lg\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa qap\u0131l\u0131b, emosional davran\u0131b bel\u0259 h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t s\u0259rgil\u0259yirl\u0259r. Sözün \u0259sl m\u0259nas\u0131nda, c\u0259miyy\u0259tin q\u0131na\u011f\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olan bu mövzuda yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r ç\u0131l\u011f\u0131nl\u0131q \u0259ks etdirirl\u0259r. Bilirik ki, bu ya\u015f dön\u0259mind\u0259 onlar d\u0259rin dü\u015fünüb, uzaqgör\u0259nlik ed\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r. Üzl\u0259\u015fdikl\u0259ri h\u0259r hans\u0131 situasiyaya qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131q verir, özl\u0259rini nümayi\u015f etdirirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni komformizm, özl\u0259rini ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n \u0259traf\u0131nda f\u0259rqli göst\u0259rm\u0259k, nümayi\u015f etdirm\u0259k kimi xüsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 malik olurlar. H\u0259tta bunu ç\u0259kib yaymaq da ist\u0259yirl\u0259r ki, “m\u0259nd\u0259n qorx, m\u0259nd\u0259n ehtiyat et, bax, m\u0259n bunlara qadir\u0259m”. Lakin bunun onlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131nda n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r f\u0259sad tör\u0259d\u0259c\u0259yinin, yanl\u0131\u015f, pis davran\u0131\u015fla n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259ndiyinin f\u0259rqin\u0259 varm\u0131rlar. Çünki bu ya\u015fda t\u0259f\u0259kkür potensial\u0131 el\u0259 inki\u015faf edib ki, uza\u011f\u0131 gör\u0259, tör\u0259tdikl\u0259ri \u0259m\u0259l\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131-pis don geyindir\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r. T\u0259bii ki, bunun s\u0259b\u0259bi ail\u0259d\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n t\u0259rbiy\u0259d\u0259ki bo\u015fluqlard\u0131r. H\u0259m psixoloji, h\u0259m pedaqoji aspektd\u0259n valideynl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n mü\u0259yy\u0259n q\u0259d\u0259r xarakter xüsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rinin do\u011fru a\u015f\u0131lanmamas\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131n bütün ist\u0259kl\u0259rini h\u0259yata keçir\u0259r\u0259k onlar\u0131 bu c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 uy\u011fun \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t kimi böyüd\u0259 bilm\u0259m\u0259l\u0259ri buna s\u0259b\u0259b olur. \u018fn h\u0259ssas ya\u015f dön\u0259mind\u0259ki insanlar\u0131 bu c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 adaptasiya etm\u0259k üçün h\u0259r bir valideyn m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti d\u0259rk etm\u0259lidir, övlad\u0131na diqq\u0259t ay\u0131rmaq valideynin v\u0259zif\u0259 borcudur. Bezm\u0259m\u0259k, ç\u0259tin d\u0259 olsa, u\u015faqlar\u0131 bu dövrün t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rin\u0259 uy\u011fun olaraq, düzgün xarakterl\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259l\u0259ndirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Xarakter do\u011fru formala\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259r d\u0259, davran\u0131\u015f da özünü do\u011frulda bilsin”.<\/p>\n

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Bak\u0131n\u0131n 156 sayl\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259binin XI sinif \u015fagirdinin tör\u0259tdiyi \u0259m\u0259l bir neç\u0259 gündür, ölk\u0259 günd\u0259mind\u0259n dü\u015fmür. M\u0259lum hadis\u0259 \u0259traf\u0131nda apar\u0131lan müzakir\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bildirilir ki, m\u0259kt\u0259bli q\u0131z\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na gör\u0259 onun t\u0259hsil ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259b…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-196970","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/196970","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=196970"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/196970\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=196970"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=196970"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=196970"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}