{"id":191943,"date":"2023-12-06T11:16:08","date_gmt":"2023-12-06T07:16:08","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-29T20:00:00","slug":"","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/?p=191943","title":{"rendered":"“Evli \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 olmaq “komfortdur””"},"content":{"rendered":"

“\u0130nsanlar h\u0259yat\u0131n h\u0259r sah\u0259sind\u0259 oldu\u011fu kimi münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 arxay\u0131nl\u0131q axtar\u0131rlar”.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, bunu m\u0259\u015fhur psixoloq \u018ffsan\u0259 Rüst\u0259mova “Cebhe.info”ya aç\u0131qlamas\u0131nda deyib.<\/p>\n

O bildirib ki, münasib\u0259td\u0259 idar\u0259etm\u0259nin sizd\u0259 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildikd\u0259 arxay\u0131n olursunuz:<\/p>\n

“M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, arxay\u0131nl\u0131q axtaranlar\u0131n böyük \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti dini inanc\u0131 da arxay\u0131nl\u0131q kimi görür. Dü\u015fünürl\u0259r ki, dinin verdiyi sisteml\u0259 getdikd\u0259 sonda yax\u015f\u0131 bir mükafat alacaqlar. Y\u0259ni din \u0259n böyük arxay\u0131nl\u0131q s\u0259b\u0259bidir. Ona gör\u0259 d\u0259 insanlar münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 arxay\u0131nl\u0131q axtar\u0131rlar. Bunu ancaq t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rin bir-birin\u0259 güv\u0259nm\u0259si il\u0259 t\u0259min etm\u0259k olar. \u018fks halda, t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rd\u0259 bir-birinin s\u0259hvl\u0259rinin v\u0259 eyibl\u0259rinin axtar\u0131\u015f\u0131na ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. Bu is\u0259 münasib\u0259t\u0259 ziyan vurur v\u0259 yorucu bir dön\u0259m\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur”.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq haz\u0131rda insanlar\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 olan etibar\u0131n\u0131n hans\u0131 h\u0259dd\u0259 olmas\u0131 bar\u0259d\u0259 d\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131b:<\/p>\n

“\u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, bu, müzakir\u0259y\u0259 aç\u0131q mövzudur. Haz\u0131rda insanlar bir-birin\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lki kimi etibar etmirl\u0259r. Bunun ön\u0259mli s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rind\u0259n biri d\u0259 insanlar\u0131n informasiya al\u0131c\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n artmas\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u0259ni qula\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, gözümüz, \u0259limiz v\u0259 s. h\u0259r yerd\u0259n informasiya al\u0131r. Bel\u0259likl\u0259, biz daha çox informasiya al\u0131r\u0131q, özümüz ya\u015famasaq da daha çox neqativ t\u0259crüb\u0259 görürük.<\/p>\n

Ümumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, qoruyucu mexanizm özümüz olmayanda bizd\u0259 çox böyük arxay\u0131nl\u0131q yaran\u0131r. Y\u0259ni biri var ki, m\u0259n müdir olaraq i\u015fçini idar\u0259 edir\u0259m, biri d\u0259 var müdir ba\u015fqas\u0131d\u0131r v\u0259 m\u0259n sad\u0259c\u0259 situasiyan\u0131 idar\u0259 edir\u0259m.<\/p>\n

Dü\u015fünür\u0259m ki, münasib\u0259ti d\u0259 buna b\u0259nz\u0259tm\u0259k olar. Y\u0259ni evli biri il\u0259 münasib\u0259td\u0259 onun “namusuna”, x\u0259yan\u0259tin\u0259, irad\u0259sin\u0259, güv\u0259nin\u0259 v\u0259 puluna ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n n\u0259zar\u0259t edib, s\u0259nin is\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 anl\u0131q zövqd\u0259n faydalanman dem\u0259kdir. Çünki ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n qazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 pulu x\u0259rcl\u0259m\u0259k, özünün \u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259 qazand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259rcl\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n daha maraql\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259tta dey\u0259rdim ki, evli biri il\u0259 münasib\u0259t çox böyük “komfort”dur”.<\/p>\n

H\u0259msöhb\u0259timizin sözl\u0259rin\u0259 gör\u0259, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin ki\u015fi v\u0259 ya qad\u0131n olmas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq, onu izl\u0259y\u0259nin ba\u015fqas\u0131 oldu\u011funa arxay\u0131n oluruq:<\/p>\n

“Y\u0259ni evli \u015f\u0259xsin h\u0259yat\u0131nda olan insan ona xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik sah\u0259si yarad\u0131r. T\u0259crüb\u0259 göst\u0259rir ki, bu gün\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r qad\u0131nlar daha çox evli ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 münasib\u0259td\u0259 olurdular.<\/p>\n

Bu, onlar üçün daha “komfortlu” idi. \u0130ndi is\u0259 b\u0259lk\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 evli qad\u0131nlarla münasib\u0259td\u0259 olma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131blar. Çünki ki\u015fil\u0259r art\u0131q qad\u0131nlar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na n\u0259zar\u0259ti itirdikl\u0259ri üçün m\u0259suliyy\u0259td\u0259n qurtulma\u011fa çal\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Y\u0259ni n\u0259zar\u0259t mexanizmini ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n üz\u0259rin\u0259 götürdüyü münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 olma\u011f\u0131 daha az yorucu q\u0259bul edirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Böyük ehtimalla, \u0259sas motivl\u0259rd\u0259n biri budur. Bu, h\u0259m d\u0259 maddi yükün v\u0259 emosional ehtiyac\u0131n bölünm\u0259sidir. <\/p>\n

H\u0259mçinin, insan\u0131n doyma h\u0259ddi d\u0259 art\u0131b. Dem\u0259li, bir insan qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi qane ed\u0259 bilmir. \u018fslind\u0259 evli ki\u015fi v\u0259 ya evli xan\u0131mla birlikd\u0259 olma\u011f\u0131n “komfortu” ondand\u0131r ki, onu maddi, emosional v\u0259 cinsi olaraq sad\u0259c\u0259 s\u0259n t\u0259min etm\u0259li deyils\u0259n. \u0130nsanlar haz\u0131rda t\u0259k bir \u015f\u0259xs üçün bu q\u0259d\u0259r çal\u0131\u015fmaqdan yoruldu\u011fu üçün “komfort”da olaca\u011f\u0131 münasib\u0259tl\u0259ri seçirl\u0259r”. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“\u0130nsanlar h\u0259yat\u0131n h\u0259r sah\u0259sind\u0259 oldu\u011fu kimi münasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 arxay\u0131nl\u0131q axtar\u0131rlar”. Ucnoqta.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, bunu m\u0259\u015fhur psixoloq \u018ffsan\u0259 Rüst\u0259mova “Cebhe.info”ya aç\u0131qlamas\u0131nda deyib. O bildirib ki, münasib\u0259td\u0259 idar\u0259etm\u0259nin sizd\u0259 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildikd\u0259…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":251278,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[101],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-191943","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cemiyyet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191943","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=191943"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/191943\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/251278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=191943"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=191943"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucnoqta.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=191943"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}